Do you think your husband should tell you everything he does or does he need his own spcace and freedom?

Question

For example, I have to leave 2days out of the week and he stays by himself.He them might go eat out or go to a friends house or go play pool but he won't tell me.Is that a sign that he wants a little alone time or lack of communication.He won't tell until I ask.

Answer 1

It means he's taking advantage of those two days and he doesn't want you in his business...

Answer 2

Trust is the biggest issue in a marriage. You blow trust and it may never come back. You need to sit down with him and work out this between you two. He needs to be aware of how important trust is and to reaffirm that he is trustworthy. You too. Not saying you or he should be like a little kid, checking in with mommy or daddy every half hour but what is wrong with an sms 'hey babe, slept in, going to play pool at.... with..... Home later, call you after 8." He IS having time alone, which is ok, but communication is the only way to have personal space AND a marriage

Answer 3

You leave your husband for 2 days out of the week s he can have some alone time you have got to be kidding..Tell him he can have all the alone time he wants tell him to hit the road.Sounds like he has someone on the side no married man would want to be away from their wife for 2 days out of the week so he can be with his friends if he wants his friends so bad tell him he can go live with them permenatly you can do way better then that.

Answer 4

I am married also and my husband likes alone time too. I feel like we should tell each other where we are and if we're out with our fiends when we will be home. I dont think that thats asking too much I think thats called respect you should be open and honest with each other that eliminates suspicion and jealousy, at the same time shows the other person that you love them and respect them and you dont want them to have those suspicious feeling. He needs to understand that if he doesnt have anything to hide he shouldnt act like it because that will only make you not trust him and he should want you to trust him.

Answer 5

OH crimony i saw some bad responses. No man wants to be mother-henned. We don't work/think that way, and don't treat him like a kid. There's a book called "proper care and feeding of husbands" that goes over the fundamental differences of the genders.

Answer 6

Every one has to have a little space. You go out of town 2 days a week, does your husband grill you on what you did and where you went. You need to give him his space and TRUST HIM

Answer 7

Everyone needs some privacy and space, as long as he isn't doing anything that is breaking his vows don't worry.

If you smother him your relationship will die fast. How would you like it if he asked you everything you did minute by minute. You would probably feel like he didn't trust you.

If you have no trust in a marriage you have no marriage.

Answer 8

Just because you are married does not mean you are not individuals. He obviously finds ways of entertaining himself while you are away and it's obviously not that big of a deal to him. He's not lieing to you so don't worry about it.

You travel, he goes out to eat. Nothing more sinister than that. You just need to trust him.

Answer 9

I go through the same feeling with my husband....I don't ask unless I feel realy compelled to. I have also told him that He must never make me feel like I can't ask. I am hoping that practice makes perfect when it comes to being nosy. Practice trust! God Bless.

Answer 10

He does need space, of course. If he answers when you ask, that is a good start. Some men share more than others.

Answer 11

I feel he should tell me the important things and not keep secrets from me but he still needs his space and freedom at times and since I love him i will do this for him as he does it for me....