2007-01-27 10:25:58 · 34 answers · asked by Ami 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ok more details. We work together. Outside work spend every minute together and we are both planning to pay half the mortgage. We just wanna get on the property ladder and don't wanna buy with a stranger.
2007-01-27 11:27:39 · update #1
Yes. Go for it. Life is too short, but draw up a Contract with him just in case you fall out so you can amicably buy out the other partners' share in the house
2007-01-27 18:03:57 · answer #1 · answered by Ady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
Five months isn't enough to be sure that this relationship will last.
Buying a house on a mortgage is a commitment that lasts over 25 years. Many relationships don't last that long.
I'd suggest renting - even if it's a council house - for now.
If you do decide to buy a place, you need to sort out how you will handle matters if the relationship doesn't work out. Maybe even take legal advice and get an agreement signed and witnessed. Some would say it's a sign of not trusting each other. That's rubbish - it's a sign of being sensible and making it perfectly clear what will happen if it doesn't work out - and it saves any bitterness or arguments if it does come to that.
2007-01-27 11:49:40 · answer #2 · answered by Andrew B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am actually contemplating the same thing with my boyfriend of three years. It is a great investment, however you have to be positive you are ready for it. I think 5 months may be too early, however nobody really knows your relationship except you. If you feel in your heart that it is truly what you want to do then go for it. Just make sure you have a contract written up that you both agree on. If you find out this was a mistake down the road then so be it. We all make mistakes, and I'm sure you have plently of people who love you and support you. If you find out this was the best decision ever then good for you! You will never know unless you give it a shot. Just make sure it's what you truly want to do and you are not just doing what other people want you to do.
2007-01-29 06:49:27 · answer #3 · answered by dazed and confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was lucky it worked out for me. We had know each other for only a couple of months when we moved in together then bought a house within eight months and married within 3 years and are still totally happy.
It does depend on your circumstances though I am 36 and my wife is a mature 27 and we were both ready for the kind of commitment that making a life together takes.
If you want to move in together try renting first its easier to get out of if it goes wrong.
Sometimes all you can do is suck it and see.
good luck.
2007-01-27 10:37:41 · answer #4 · answered by Bailey B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. Youre really looking for trouble here. Wat too early to jump into such a strong legal binding committment. If you have to live together get an apartment or rent a house, easier to get out of if something happens. If you buy a house and you two break up then the legal aspects of dumping the house or getting out of the contract and penalties could be financially binding for years to come. Take it easy for a few years and see how things go before making such a big move. Good luck
2007-01-27 10:36:58 · answer #5 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should for sure move in with him, if that is what you want!!!! You usually really get to know someone while living with them...too many people wait for a very long time, then realize they don't want this person, after they move in. Having said that, I would NOT recommend you buying a house with this guy, just for that simple reason. Try renting together first. What's the rush right?
2007-01-27 10:31:52 · answer #6 · answered by spoiled 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You buy the house and let your young relationship grow with him living elsewhere. So many men prey on women to stabilize them and live off them and then they end up taking over and you have lost your identity. Give your relation ship some time. How much do you really know someone after 5 months? Not enough my friend. Make sure you buy this house on your own. If you can't at this time, wait until you are financially ready.
2007-01-27 10:37:31 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Minnie Mouse♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy your own house. Well , this is because what if you guys break-up and you have to pay whole mortgage for the rest of your life as you guys are not together. Nothing is stable in life anything can happen at any moment.
2007-01-27 17:53:36 · answer #8 · answered by dishakr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on him and if you feel you know him I work with mortgages and the fall out !! I have at least 2 cancels a week when we would have to NPR (not proceeding) because of others rushing in thinking its time ,seeing the commitment in black and white then reality hitting its not like your signing a lease you cant walk away if things dont go right you will end up tied up together whether youl ike it not because of the home! try leasing short time like a year or six months its true you never really know someone until you have lived with them!!! good luck.
2007-01-27 10:38:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO NO
Buy a house for yourself by all means. Let him stay over when he wants. Be with him for a couple of years before you get this serious. It can cause all kinds of problems if you decide in another five months the relationship isn't going anywhere. You are still honeymooners. the dynamics of your relationship will change over time and then you will be able to see if it is real love or not. It's too soon, don't be silly.
2007-01-27 10:44:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Don't do it! I did it, lost out big time. . . Living together is hard, I mean how many friends have you lived with that did your head in? Now imagine living, working, sleeping, eating with someone else. Plus, if it all goes wrong, you really are up sh*t creek without a paddle. Take it from someone who had to move into a scummy bedsit and sleep on the floor for two weeks.
2007-01-28 04:54:37 · answer #11 · answered by kittenwhiskers456 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋