my brother has three foster boys ages 3,5 and 6. as you know you cannot spank a foster child but boy do they need it BAD. these children have never been disciplined and require a lot of time outs. what other methods can be used in dealing with behaviors such as.
ignoring adults and refusing to answer.
hitting.
breaking toys of their own.
breaking others toys.
running in the house.
not eating.
spitting food on the floor.
peeing the bed everytime they see mom. knowingly and purposely does this.
there are so much more but that is the basics.
thank you in advance!!!!!!!
2007-01-27 10:13:58 · 17 answers · asked by nakita 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Rewards for doing the right thing.
Withholding opportunities and privileges for being bad.
Three young foster kids is a lot to handle. I suspect he is actually very good at this. If not, consider taking on one or two kids at first. (This is a great thing your brother is doing.)
2007-01-27 10:16:28 · answer #1 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Your brother should have received training on how to discipline without spanking when he was trained for his foster care license and if he was not, there should be trainings available in his area. You might also be able to attend them. In response to the poster who wanted to know "who says you can't spank them?", the answer is the government. If you spank a foster child, you can lose your foster care license, be fined or placed in jail. That is the law because they are not your kids and the government has to be liable for anything that happens to them and it is too easy for people to cross the line from spanking to beating.
2007-01-28 06:06:00 · answer #2 · answered by wisegirl1204 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give them a time out. Take away a favorite toy for a week. The little one is probably picking this up from the oldest. He needs to put a stop to it right away and the 3 year old will probably follow suit.
2007-01-27 18:17:43 · answer #3 · answered by ஐ♥Gin♥ஐ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NANNY 911!!!!
LOL
There is this one method when you put a red tennis ball in a jar, at the bottom, and a yellow ball in the middle, and a green ball at the top. When they are bad, take away the ball. Then it is going further down, which is like giving them a warning. But when they are good, put a ball back in.Tell them at the end of the week, if you have the green ball, you will go out for ice cream, or something. Since he has three kids, it will become more challenging to them, to try and get that green ball.
Hope I helped!!!
Good Luck!
2007-01-27 18:17:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wow! Those are troubled kids. Chances are pretty good that they learned this behaviour in a terrible home. I think you have to teach them new behaviour and reward them for that. Kids are hard to reason with, but they do know when they get attention good or bad. They have to learn that they will get attention for good behaviour and it is a much better type of attention. I'm afraid though that it will take a lot of time, attention, and LOVE to get through to them. Just remember they probably have had more hardship in their short lives than you will ever see.
2007-01-27 18:20:18 · answer #5 · answered by Wendi lu who 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom is a child therapist and she usually suggest that parents
punish their children by not buying them new toys if they broke it, limiting their television and play time, and not treating them to certain things like a happy meal or a trip to the mall. You should start to take away the things that they enjoy and let them know that when they start behaving like "big boys" or "girls" they will get them back.
2007-01-27 18:21:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What i would do since i have a little sister and lots of friends that have little siblings. Any way i would is every time they break something i would make them fix it and if they don't do that i would trip them when they run in the house so they can find out why you or your parents don't run in the house.
2007-01-27 18:21:23 · answer #7 · answered by Lottie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
these children have come from broken and abused homes, they need a special kind of person to care for them, for me personally I could never make it, raising my kids was bad enough for me... I do know some true angels that know how to handle this situation, but if your brother is getting frustrated, maybe he needs to let them go.
good luck either way
2007-01-27 18:19:01 · answer #8 · answered by BubbleGumBoobs! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what my mom did would count to three. and if she got to three then something bad would happen. like no tv for the rest of the day. or no video games for a week. pretty much it depended on what we were doing but after a few times we learned not to let her get to three because something of ours would be taken away.
⥠hope that helps.
2007-01-27 18:18:20 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Amanda Way♥ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
who said you can't spank them? there is a difference between spanking and beating the hell out of them. i suppose you could try sending them to their rooms and taking away things like toys and such. although these kids sound ungovernable, i think i would speak to social services about getting them placed elsewhere.
2007-01-27 18:19:24 · answer #10 · answered by tindomerel0507 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋