Mental abuse, or just plain psychotic???

Question

My friend's bf is very (in my opinion) verbally abusive. He brings her down to bring himself up. This is a text message that he sent her...

I've lived a year through bulls***, selfishness & your inabilities to handle situations. U have walked all over my feelings & played mind games. U have an inability to shut your f***ing trap & admit your faults. I listen to your days & u never asking about mine cuz you're egotistical & self centered. It's impossible to please a spoiled sniveling tw*t like yourself. You need a psychological examination because u exhibit signs of manic depressive and bipolar. U never believe anything is your fault, but the rest of us know better. It's ok because someday you'll end rocking in your chair at an institution when you have developed schizophrenia & believe little green men are following u.

Isn't there something I can do???

Answer 1

Tell her (if she knows and approves of you having the message), "If it's true change it, if it's not true drop him." Otherwise stay out of it

Answer 2

If this is the type of thing he does regularly then maybe he is what I call a "toxic" person... he seems to be great but then when things go wrong (In his mind) then all the blame is turned around onto your friend... basically playing mind games with her to make her feel like she is maybe doing something to cause the problem, and then she tries to make everything better... he seems to have the control... he is definately being verbally abusive... but also look and see if your friend is doing what I said above to him... then maybe SHE is the "toxic" person in the relationship... either way its not healthy and she needs to get out of a relationship like this, because why be in a relationship where the partners treat eachother this way... its not loving and if she's afraid of him physically then thats another story and she will need to get help on that. I know from personal experience and observations of other toxic relationships , that the toxic person will not admit they are wrong, and the best thing to do is to remove yourself from the relationship... they mess with your mind badly, and you don't want that for your friend...
hope that helps a bit

Answer 3

Sounds like over reacting, maybe he is angry and that is how he feels maybe he is feeling like he is not getting the attention he deserves but eitherway it does not sound like it should continue to be a relationship.
Abusive relationships of any kind tend to just become worse and worse the longer they hold on, if your friend is bipolar she needs someone who understands the illness but if someone is ill they are still capable of controlling many of their actions and I have met people who are ill and blamed everything on their illness and taken no responsibility.
Sometimes we have to take responsibility for our selves otherwise the world would be in chaos but he may just be over reacting either way tell her to get rid of him and find someone more caring.