This is a very, very serious question. If you don't believe that this is serious, look at the questions I usually ask. I really am looking for a serious answer. That said, here is my question: A friend of mine sent me an e-mail asking me for advice on an issue since I used to volunteer at an LBGT call-in help line. However, I never dealt with an issue just like this and I was hoping for some advice before I write her back. Here was what she said, I'll cut and paste it in so I don't miss anything: "Hi (my name). I know this is coming out of the blue, but I was hoping you could halp me with something personal. I came out to you years ago and you have been great, but now somethign new is happening to me. I keep having this recurring dream, it's a sex dream. I am with a guy, which is weird enough, but even weirder, I am a guy too, and a bottom!" It goes on, but that's the jist. So how do I respond to my lesbian friends gay-bottom sex dream. Advice please!!
2007-01-27 09:56:45 · 12 answers · asked by I Can Preach Too! 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'm trying to figure out what to say to my friend, so, I am actually looking for advice on what to say to her. She seems so confused these past few days and I assume this dream is why. I was thinking of telling her to keep being herself and see what happens in the future. I think she may be transgendered and just figuring it out. Anyway, I was looking for advice on what to say to her....that was my question....for those of you who think the question is about me, that's cool, but it isn't helping me figure out what to tell my friend.
2007-01-27 10:07:29 · update #1
Perhaps she's merely portraying herself as a gay person. With how society labels gay people it kind of throws gay men and lesbians into the same boat. Not being gay myself, I can only assume, but I'm sure there are differences. I don't really think it's anything to worry about.
Remember that movie the sword and the stone? Where the kid turned into a squirrel and got hit on by some slutty chick squirrel... think about it kind of like that. In her dream she was a dude being humped by a dude. That doesn't mean she really is a dude, and perhaps her subconcious was thinking in that whole "gay men and lesbians are the same" mindset.
Dreams are simply dreams. They're peepholes into all the **** you've ever encountered in your entire lifetime.
2007-01-27 11:00:38 · answer #1 · answered by J Bents 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our society, while improving on this issue, is nonetheless still male dominated. Maybe that's why so many women have dreams about being men? I'm not sure what her question was, and so not sure what your's is either. With just what you wrote I'd probably just respond with something like "Wow. That's pretty wild. But don't worry, that kind of dream is more common than you think. It's just not something most people talk about. So, how's life treating you..."
2007-01-27 10:03:47 · answer #2 · answered by CrazyGypsy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can you ask your friend if lately had any kind of pressure or anxiety caused by the family surroundings.It seems that something has blocked some of her chakras. There is nothing to worry about but on the other hand her persistent on that dream is strange.
2007-01-27 10:15:03 · answer #3 · answered by roulis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are not 100% male or female.
A dream may be a part of your minor pesonality.
Perhaps you should act out your bottom fantasy with your partner?
2007-01-27 10:01:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! Thats a tough one, um just tell her that a dream is a dream she
should stress about it she know that shes not a guy she knows that she doesnt like guys so it shouldnt affect life because she you know and she knows that it's not real and that it will never happen. just be cool dont stress
2007-01-27 10:08:14 · answer #5 · answered by twist 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...dreams are just dreams. if she feels strongly about it, like really strongly, and can't get it out of her head, then she should do what her heart tells her to. it sound cheesey, i know. but most dreams that you can't get out of your system are your sub-conscious telling you something.
but
dreams are just dreams. my straight best friend had a dream she was making out with a girl. and i had a dream i was feeling up a guy. and i'm lesbian. dreams are just dreams.
2007-01-27 10:05:07 · answer #6 · answered by firefreak 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the dream you had... it means when you end up with a person you don't know, you lose the opportunity to communicate with them. Sorry if this hurt your feelings, but I am serious. its true.
2007-01-27 10:00:36 · answer #7 · answered by Glowie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds like some one is bi carouse orreacerant dreams or trying to tell you thinks you need to know.or what.s going to happen.
2007-01-27 10:02:55 · answer #8 · answered by i,m here if you need to talk. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she was a guy in her past life.
2007-01-27 18:28:22 · answer #9 · answered by Dreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sexual dreams do not always have sexual meaning
check out 'sex in dreams' at
2007-01-27 12:28:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋