Gay dating etiquette?

Question

Ok. Here's my story. I'm going on a date with someone I really like on Tuesday and we are going out to eat first and going to a concert. I've been on dates before, but is the first guy I really like so I'm a little anxious. Anyhow, I would like to know who should pay? He asked me out and I'm afraid that if I try to pay for mine, it may upset him because he is a little awkward when it comes to dating, but so am I. I don't mind paying for my own or even paying for his, but I just don't want to upset him.

Oh, I didnt' mention that we each paid for our own concert tickets.

Answer 1

Usually, whoever asks pays.

At dinner, if you are asked if it is separate checks or a single check you can ask for separate checks before he says anything; but if he says it's a single check first or says it's a single check after you asked for separate checks, thank him.

By him asking you to the concert, he most likely has already gotten the tickets and you shouldn't offer to pay for that (he might think that you don't think he has any money).

If you like him and would like to go out again after this date, it would now be your turn to ask him out (and your turn to pay).

Answer 2

Always be prepared to pay your own way, but if someone asks you out on a date, then they should expect to foot the bill. Making a date pay is no different than charging them a fee to go on a date with you. I would expect, if I asked someone out, to have already planned out my budget, including the niceties like flowers, a card, etc. The worst thing to do is ask someone out on a date, pick them up, then say, "What do you want to do?" I always ask questions beforehand - what kind of food do you like? Is there any foods you cannot eat? What's your favorite movie? What kind of music do you like? If the one asking assumes the responsibility for the financial side of the date, then there is no need for the awkward moment wondering if you your date is paying or you are paying, or you are splitting the cost of the date. Being a true Gentleman goes a long way. If you just wanna hook up with someone, say so. Don't host a dog and pony show just waiting for the "right time" to make your move. A date is meant to get to know someone emotionally, mentally, spiritually. You are looking for commonalities and synergy - do they bring out the best in you, or make you wish this date was over? Do they make you laugh "with" your date, or do they make you laugh "at" your date? Like any relationship, romance is the spark that can ignite the flame of passion. Romance is something you have to work at. It requires thought and effort, understanding, compassion, a sense of adventure, and a lot of creativity. Capture the mind and you capture the heart. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

Well usually the dating etiquette is whoever asks pays. But in modern society that may not always fly. Maybe when the bill comes suggest you pay since he bought the concert tickets.
Another way to look at this is how much does he make and how much do you make? Whoever makes more can pick up the majority of the bill (dinner and a movie - movie less expensive than dinner, the one who makes less pays for that). My ex wife and I while we were together, she made more money than I did, we figured by our salaries who pays what. She made 65% more than I made, she paid 65% more of the household expenses. Financial issues can cause lots of problems, work it out in the best way that fits your relationship. Not all relationships are cookie cut.

Good luck, and hope this leads to more dates.

Answer 4

i ought to assert the perfect date etiquette must be now to not have sex on the first date. i recognize stereotype yet i have been on some dates the position the guy concept my penis became on the menu besides because the nutrition. yet in case you extremely like him i ought to take him someplace the position you both sense comfortable and comfy and yeah open his door and pull out his chair for him. If he looks at you humorous only wink and smile. I disolve right into a puddle if a guy ought to attempt this for me! best of luck on your next date!

Answer 5

Because we're gay, that means we ALWAYS get to make our own rules. There's no assumptions beforehand. As such, be prepared to pay for your own, and I think it's always good to offer. If you can pay for him, I think it's cool to offer. If he doesn't want to, it's up to you what you want to let him pay for. I think it's a silly thing to argue over, generally, but...yeah. That's one of those roles that you need to figure out between the two of you. YAY for no gender roles. :)