My boyfriend of two and a half years and I broke up about three weeks ago. Our relationship was so wonderful in the beginning. We started having problems when I left for college. My first semester there was awful. I was needy, clingy, exc. So when I got back for Christmas, he ended it. About three months after, he called and we worked things out. Ever since then, the relationship was up and down. He always told me about how much he loved me and I knew he was telling the truth. He still felt like I was too needy and he wanted to be free and experience college (it was his first semester there). Even in our ups and downs, he was still committed and told me about how much he loved me. Although, things weren't quite like they were before. Before Christmas this year, he told me he had feelings like he wanted to be single. Two days after, he said he loved me and we were fine. Until about three weeks ago he said it again and I broke up with him. Do you think he just needs space?
2007-01-27 09:33:23 · 6 answers · asked by ambrosius15 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Honestly, you two are both still young and you both need space. Even older folks have ups and downs in their relationships, so I'm not saying that your youth is what's killing this relationship. I think the problem is lack of experience. You should both allow yourselves to experience life for what it is as individuals. See other people. Learn from other people. Learn about relationships (the good and the bad) and eventually, you will know what you really want. If you both do this, you will appreciate each other more in the end if you decide to be together again. Good luck.
2007-01-27 09:38:23 · answer #1 · answered by ♪ ♥ ♪ ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was actually with a guy for 4 1/2 yrs when I went to college. We were engaged. He proposed 2 months before I started college. Everything was great. But in the middle of first semester we started having problems. Eventually we broke up for good in January that year (last year) . Now that we have been broke up for a year we are both with seperate people and happy. Although he broke up with me then we got back together I broke up with him. Even though I broke up with him I found out about his new girl and I was crushed. I even called him to get back with him. Then when I thought about it things in our relationship would never be the same if we got back together. I still loved him but I wasnt in love with him anymore. I just got tired of trying to "make" it work. If you feel like its worth fighting for then I say give him space and when he comes back then take him back. But giving him space means dont call him and dont anser his calls for about a month. Go out and see how many other cute guys approach you. You will NEVER forget him. He has a part of you. But honestly. . .how long should you fight for something that is never going to be the same? If you want to talk about it. Email me at lorisbarbie@yahoo.com
2007-01-27 17:42:19 · answer #2 · answered by lorisbarbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but you need to dump him. For good. Long distance relationships, especially at your age, are a bit casual (even though it may not feel that way). He is meeting new girls. I don't think I need to fill in the blanks there, do I? He's not sure what he wants, now that there's a new buffet table of women spread out in front of him.
And you should be meeting new guys. Especially if you're in the San Diego area... ;-)
2007-01-27 17:41:28 · answer #3 · answered by Quagmire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is stringing you along. Are you giving him sex? It sounds like he's getting the milk without buying the cow. He wants to be single period! But he knows that you will always be there for him when he wants you and has time for you. He's really messing up your life. You need to be straight with him. Buy him saying he needs space he's saying that he wants to date around. Either be fully commited or be single.
2007-01-27 17:39:53 · answer #4 · answered by yaabro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, if he can't make up his mind, dump him.
Tell him that you love him, but the relationship in too unpredictable (mood-wise)
Or maybe he wants to be single because he might be seeing someone else, or cheating on you.
Give it a while, and if it doesn't work out, turn your back and run away.
2007-01-27 17:38:52 · answer #5 · answered by jaguargrrl27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes,but it sounds like the two of you will be friends so just let things remain friendly.College is a whole different time for the both of you so go out into the world and see it.
2007-01-27 17:39:21 · answer #6 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋