I have been married for over 20 years. However I have been very unhappy for the past 5 or 6 years, Although I remained faithful. Then I met one of my new colleagues wife, Dolce. Dolce is beautiful, vibrant, sexy, fun!! We hit it off immediately!! The next thing I know my colleague is constantly putting us together!! And we kept getting closer!! Eventually the inevitable happened - we began to have an affair. At first it was wonderful. She was so new - and wanted me so much. But I could not 'be with' two woman. So I had to leave my wife. It was the only thing I could do. I told Dolce that I understood that she couldn't leave her husband just yet. They have two boys 10 and 14. And she said she needs time. I found out that she had an 8 year affair with one her husbands best friends. That ended just 2 years before I enterd the picture. And she has maintained contact with the love of her life from 20 years ago. And she was going to 'visit' him just last week!
2007-01-27 09:15:47 · 25 answers · asked by mud_creek2001 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
from your question i can sense you already know the answer to this. You want to ask so that others might dispute your interpretation of it. But we can't. Because you are right. Take your losses and move on.
2007-01-27 09:21:47 · answer #1 · answered by Dear Cabbie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only reason you remained faithful during those 5 years is because you hadn't found anyone to do it with it. The good thing about this whole thing is, your exwife has been set free from a loveless marriage and is not wasting any more time on you.
Since Dolce, is such a wonderful find, just keep her around for the bedding She is never going to leave here husband for you or probably not for the other guy either.
2007-01-27 09:31:09 · answer #2 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to keep cuckolding and disrespecting a man you claim to love.You need to tell him right away so he can at least get a medical check for any diseases you and your lover might have passed along to him because if a guy starts fu@king his "best friend's" wife then he'll stick his d!ck in just about anything.Of course you'll get primary custody and child support and probably spousal support and the marital home and a good portion of the marital assets.You'll get all of that and your husband,who you claim is the best and a great father and you still love,gets to have his life destroyed by two of the people in the world who he should have been able to trust.Your husband deserves better than you.
2016-05-24 06:30:56 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you is to leave her alone,, work on your 20 year marriage at all cost!!! I am speaking from experience,, I have been married almost 30 years and I met a man while back,, who I fell in love with,, I would have never ever cheated on him,, so much love , respect,,felt so close to him,, after long relationship one night I ask where he was, and said it was over instead of telling me where he was. Then I got real mad and felt could replace him, But deep down am so in love,, and never felt such pain in my life, so unless you want to be miserable rest of your life,, focus on your marriage,, and see what is wrong with it, make some changes and get over her as soon as possible. I don't have all the answers except you are putting your self in great danger of a very bad brokenheart,, I have tryed and tryed to contact my love,, and he want respond,, he want forgive and just be friends,,, so I just want to warn you of the heartache and pain you are in for. Plus not to mention the heartache of married life and her family you will be breaking up, it's hard to do the right thing,, I hurt every single day, and think of him, am not sure if I will ever be the same, but I do feel your family and hers should be given the best chance and made sure you did your very best before you adventure out to another. Family is becoming a thing of past,, because its easier to give up,, DON"T give up ,, please, I will keep you in my prayers, Please think about this!!,,,
2007-01-27 09:34:23 · answer #4 · answered by Brokenheart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY I should besympathetic to your situation, you were a cheating jerk and you are seriously thinking that she would be faithful to you. Why should she clearly she's a lying tramp, she's had two affairs that you know about but that number is probably higher. You are not special!! I believe that you get what you give, you are just getting paid back for your dishonesty. You need to grow up and be a real man. I don't understand the attraction to bed hop and have affairs with people who are married, it just makes you weak and a very dishonest person.
2007-01-27 10:26:30 · answer #5 · answered by Fed Up! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. She won't ever leave her husband, seriously. And if she does end up with you, she will cheat on you. Once a cheater always a cheater. And if she didn't leave her husband for some guy she had an 8 year affair with, who's to say that she's going to leave him for you?
Break it off
2007-01-27 09:24:08 · answer #6 · answered by starsnmoons0101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol.. wow, are u reading what u wrote????? Shes never going to leave her husband.. if she can have an affair with someone for "8" years and not leave him, shes not going to leave him.. And to u "is she going to cheat on me?" part of ur question, hun she's not only cheating on her husband with u, shes cheating on u with her husband so she's already cheating on u there, and shes going to visit her "love of her life" lol yeah shes a man eater she's sleeping with whomever is available in the moment..
I have a question for u.. how does it feel leaving ur old life, and wife of so long, to find out u wasted ur life..on a woman that is playing u just like she plays every and any man that comes in to her life.. lol..
She's NEVER going to leave the husband.. (im guessing he makes alot of money and she likes that about him) and She will neverrrrrrrrrrrrr be faithful to any man she's a Player..
2007-01-27 09:30:53 · answer #7 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a tool, which serves you right. The honorable thing to do would have been to work on what, in your marriage, was making you unhappy, instead of sh!tting all over the institution, your wife, your colleague's marriage and any respect you had for each other and yourselves. You pathetic fool! Where's your integrity and honor?
2007-01-27 09:22:59 · answer #8 · answered by rtanys 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always love a good fairy tale. It's great to hear about a guy that left his wife for his cheat partner, and then to find that Princess Spermy isn't such a gem. Keep waiting for her. She may be with you after she finishes screwing around with all the other guys she's juggling. Right after hell freezes over. Its great that you've got what you deserve. Enjoy.
2007-01-27 09:50:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both cheated and deserve each other, at least you did your wife(ex) a favor and let her go so she can find someone that makes her happy, which i hope she did.... as far as your new lady friend,... sounds like she likes to have her cake and eat it too... she's been doing it to her husband sounds like for at least half of their married life and i wouldn't be surprised if she hasn't already cheated on you if you can call it that seeing how she is married to someone else and not you. with all that in mind... GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-27 09:24:12 · answer #10 · answered by Mystery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋