I just got an invite to a baby shower for my sister from my sister in law... now.. this is the way I think.. I have 2 kids.. 17 months apart.. I think it is tacky to throw someone a baby shower on their second baby.. that is looking for freebies.. unless.. unless.. the first child is significantly older.. like this is starting a second time around.. but a woman with a 2 year old, in my opinion, does not get another baby shower.. I think that is tacky.. even if it is my sister.. we are all gonna buy something for the baby anyhow when it is born.. I am not going to the shower.. they already make good money and I do not.. input please..
2007-01-27 09:04:07 · 25 answers · asked by tootsie38 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I totally agree with you. A shower is for someone that has nothing. Not nothing NEW. A woman in our office had three children in 5 years, she gets one shower. The people who are good friends will get her a gift. Another woman in our office has two kids in high school and, surprise, she is pregnant again. We gave her a great shower.
PS, that baby was a true gift from God.
2007-01-27 09:13:46 · answer #1 · answered by grandmother of 5 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I do not think this is tacky. I think that if the shower is thrown and people who are not family are invited there is nothing wrong with it. A new baby=a new baby shower. Even if the children are close together, when a person has a baby shower it is to ask for things they need. If they still have cribs, some clothes, etc, then they should not ask for another one, but it is their child and their baby shower so if they want new stuff I see no reason why they shouldn't get it. And if the baby's a different gender they will need all new stuff cause they wouldn't probably wanna put pink clothes from their girl onto their baby boy.
More importantly like I said, they deserve a new shower. Baby showers are to celebrate the blessing of a new child.
2007-01-27 09:18:28 · answer #2 · answered by rainbowdympiece 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh, I 100% agree with you. A good friend of mine has 4 kids 10, 8, 5, and 2. She had a shower for EACH one. I just think that is tacky. Now I am pregnant with my third, my older 2 are 7 and 6. I am not having a shower. But grandma will buy tons. My neighbor is pregnant, she is having a shower, her oldest is 15. My sister and I get along great, so I would go with a small gift (If I were you)
2007-01-27 09:20:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
From what I hear, showers for non-first children are making a come back, esp if it's a different gender or if it's been a few years since your first kiddo. I am having a second boy, 5.5 years apart and someone is throwing me a mini-shower, also referred to as a "sprinkle". I don't quite know what the difference is. I know I won't be registering for gifts, and hoping people know gifts are optional! Perhaps tell your friend that you want to keep it simple and small, just have her phrase the invitation in a way that makes the guests know it's more about the gathering than the gifts.
2016-05-24 06:28:19 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not tacky to have a baby shower for the 2nd or even 25th child. Each child is a miracle and should be celebrated with friends and family. It is up to each person who is attending whether they bring a gift or not. But the point is to shower the mother with gifts to help take care of the baby. My sister has 3 kids and we threw 3 showers for her and she appreciated it every time. It doesn't matter if your sister makes 10,000 bucks a day, the point is to celebrate in their joy of having another child, not seeing how much loot they get. It sounds to me like you are jeleous and spiteful. This is your going to be your niece or nephew, she is your sister, you should really go to the shower and help her celebrate, don't miss out on this just to be spiteful, you may come to regret it later. And, you don't have to buy her anything or buy her anything big to participate, you could buy a cute little outfit or layette set and be done.
2007-01-28 08:14:21 · answer #5 · answered by hargonagain 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I looked up baby shower etiquette and this is what I found:
1) 2nd babies and adopted babies - Although baby showers are most often thrown for first born children, it is also acceptable to have such parties for adopted babies and 2nd born children. There is nothing wrong with celebrating a new child's arrival.
2) If there are older siblings, make sure they receive a gift each. They may already be feeling somewhat left out with a new baby on the way, so this is a great idea.
2007-01-27 09:20:44 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Humble Proclaimer♥ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A full-on shower for a second baby when you have a 2 year old is tacky. But, a small intimate gathering with just close family and maybe your best friend to celebrate the new baby and give gifts is ok.
2007-01-27 09:19:40 · answer #7 · answered by twinmom 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Usually when you have more than one child and they are close in age typically the turn out for a baby shower is not that great. Although think of the shower for your sister as a celebration to the addition to her family I suggest you should attend to show support and generally she wont NEED to many things you should get her something pretty inexpensive that comes from your heart as an aunt..then it would be more special to your sister and will help you be more excited for her.
Lots of luck
Just remember it is a celebration and not just for gifts!!
Congrats on being a new aunt
2007-01-27 09:21:34 · answer #8 · answered by Odett 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How is that tacky? Even if the new baby is 9 months from the first one, he is not going to wear all hand me downs. He still needs diapers. He still needs other "newborn stuff". A baby shower is a celebration of a life about to enter the world, plus a fun time for family and friends to be together. Stop being so complicated. How about this...go, eat, celebrate, but save the gift for later since you said you were going to buy something anyway.
2007-01-27 09:17:36 · answer #9 · answered by prudentzeta 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I have to agree with you. I'm pregnant with baby number two and due in June. My daughter will be 2 in March. If anything, I MIGHT expect a party of sorts after the baby is born but only for people who wouldn't generally get to see the baby.
Let me see if I can explain that a little better. When I was pregnant with my daughter, I naturally had a baby shower with family and close friends. After my daughter was born, my mother-in-law's close friend threw me a second shower, if you will, and invited women from their Bible study group and my MIL's church who would probably never see my daughter as we go to a different church and hardly ever visit their church. So, I wouldn't be surprised if another party of this sort were to occur with my second, but for someone to actually have another baby shower would just seem absolutely ridiculous to me.
2007-01-27 09:12:04 · answer #10 · answered by Amy Lynn 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋