Would you move out of your apartment you shared with your separated roommate if he was paranoid his wife was going to come over? Would you pack up your stuff and your cats and move into a hotel until you found a room mate? Or would you stick around and wait until she found out?
He just wants to avoid a confrontation, doesn't know if he wants to work on his marriage and doesn't want to screw up his chances. Why should I do what he wants?
2007-01-27 08:47:38 · 20 answers · asked by torn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but he's just using you to replace what he wants in his wife until he can figure out what he really wants in his own life. Or maybe even hurt her by being with you - if she knows. Its hard for change and its hard to get over a love.
2007-01-27 09:04:05 · answer #1 · answered by mhford 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I certainly would not move out if he is away from his wife and you share an apartment platonically its not your problem..
He should tell his wife he has a female flatmate which was his choice, what if his wife does come over its your flat and you dont need to explain yourself to her, you are not to blame for their split him and her are...
If he didnt want confrontation then he should have got a guy flatmate and what is she going to confront him with, this is a bit sus to me tell him to get his relationship sorted and not to involve you in it..
Did you know him as a friend before he shared your flat?
Are you and him an item?
If not then why should you move out if he wants space then he should look for his own flat.. his martial rpoblems are his worry not your's make sure you point that out to him....
2007-01-27 23:26:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say move out and never see the guy again because he may spend the rest of his life trying to figure that out and there is no need to wait for him to make up his mind.
2007-01-27 16:53:13 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope i wouldnt move.. its ur place of residency if hes concerned about his wife finding out then he should be the one to change his living arrangements not u.. and if ur just a "roomate" and nothing more then there shouldnt be a problem.. and perhaps he should of thought about this before either moving u in with him , or him moving in with u , how ever it happened, but there is no reason for u to have to leave if ur name is on the lease.. now if your name is not on the lease.. then he has to legally evict u by giving u 30 day notice.. and thats only if u dont have a lease agreement already in place with him..
Something smells fishy to me about this situation.. were u both once intimate with each other? but called it off and decided to be roomies?? if so he could be just wanting to get rid of u to move another girl in.. dunno, but if he wants it to work with his wife, "He needs to prove who he is to her" not you, so why should u be the one to disrupt ur life to suit him..
2007-01-27 17:46:11 · answer #4 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I would not leave. This is my home and my name is on the lease too. However, I would start looking for a different roommate while he was fiddly farting around.
You said roommate so I gather you are not "the other woman", you are just a friend.
2007-01-27 16:53:10 · answer #5 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have learned a valuable through divorce.. if a person will cheat once, he will cheat again. rule number 2.. anything you throw away is considered trash.. you wouldnt go pick up something you already threw away.. the same reasons it didnt work the first time are still there. the same problems.... is it realy worth it?? I say no...hes an idiot
2007-01-27 16:56:08 · answer #6 · answered by road runner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Half of that apartment is your private space; you are entitled to it because you pay for it. He and his wife should agree on a meeting place and discuss their relationship at that private place. The apartment you share is NOT a private place and they should respect your half of your space.
2007-01-27 16:56:59 · answer #7 · answered by Debs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT? Unless you two are going at it, then stay put. This is not 1935 where co-ed living was unacceptable. If you are sleeping together, then stop, he doesn't love or respect you.
2007-01-27 17:01:29 · answer #8 · answered by EllieBellie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no I wouldn't move out. He can move out, he's the paranoid one not me and I'm not going anywhere.
2007-01-27 16:59:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your just room mates and nothing more...no that was his poor choice...no offense...but if there's anything between you yes you should get out.
2007-01-27 16:53:43 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋