something happened and i really did not want it to happen i have a great friend that i could tell but im so scared i cant give details because then everyone would know what happened i just dont know what to do and really need some advice
2007-01-27 08:23:22 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You just activited ALL my alarm bells.
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The words parents, teacher or police just immediately came to mind and a job for grown ups.
TELL YOUR FRIEND IMMEDIATELY...
IF SOMEONE JUST RAPED YOU YOU NEED TO GO TO THE COPS IMEDIATELY NO WASHING OR SHOWER.
IF THINGS JUST GOT OUT OF HAND THEN SAY THAT...
So not to drop they guy in it... does he know?
YOU JUST DRINK SOMETHING THAT KNOCKED YOU OUT TO WAKE WITH NO UNDERWEAR SOMEWHERE STRANGE.?
WWW.CHILDLINE.ORG.UK
0800 1111 IF IN UK
WE DONT KNOW WHO YOU ARE YOU NEED TO SAY EXACTLY WHAT HAPPEND
DONT BE SCARED
If you feel in danger can tell you how to drop an adult. Ie metal pen though eye or using teeth to rip off bollocks after pretending to be going to give a bj. Or through a neck artery...
Or a blade severing a spine will paralyse.
But only if in serious danger as all are likely to be lethal.
The childline is specailist in dealing with calls like yours if in the uk
0800 1111.
Add details even if you are ok we need to know what happend in detial and if you are now safe.
If forced to steal or do a crime tell teachers or parents as then they can protect or if you just witnessed something...
2007-01-27 08:38:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
It is a little difficult to give the best advice as, understandably, you are upset about something but don't want to give too much information on a public forum such as this.
It sounds as though you are in a very tough place to be right now and it is all very well to say tell your friend but it sounds like you feel you can't do this.
Sometimes talking to someone anonymously is easier to do than talking to someone who is 'involved' in your life. Dependant on your age there are people like childline or the samaritans. If it is a specific problem such as abuse or domestic violence then there are also specific helplines and websites that maybe of more help to you.
From experience keeping something bottled up is not a good thing to do but also, from experience, I know that family, friends or teachers are the last people you want to tell about something (may even be a part of the problem)so please consider talking to one of these support lines. They are completely confidential and you don't have to give any more details than you want to - and if you feel uncomfortable you can hang up.
I am worried about jumping to conclusions about what may be the problem here and although the 'obvious' springs to mind (abuse, rape, drugs, pregnancy etc) we could all be way off the mark.
If you want to talk to someone privately I would be more than happy for you to contact me via my e-mail address or come and see our family forum (www.fabfamilies.com) and I could see if I could find some help for you or you may get some support fro people who may have been in your situatio on our forum.
Whatever is scaring you can be dealt with and you don't have to deal with it alone. You may feel like you are alone but there is always someone you can find to help.
Take good care of yourself.
Georgie
2007-01-27 12:26:59 · answer #2 · answered by The Dragon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing talk to your friend. Don't do the whole 'you gotta keep it a secret thing' because then your situation will just get worse. Instead tell your friend if they can think of anyone you both trust, an adult, teacher, parent...to tell them. Keeping a secret, especially the way you make this one sound, isn't a good thing, it can have bad consequences and I believe you don't need to go through that. I wish you the best of luck and hope your problem is solve and you won't be scared anymore.
2007-01-27 08:30:53 · answer #3 · answered by Allyson B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If this something that happened to you is outside the realms of the law, (someone did something to you against your will) then you must report it. Trust me, you will not be judged, the people you tell are there for your benefit and only want to help. I would suggest you start by telling your friend and then taking her (as moral support), to a responsible and trusted adult, to explain further. Please do this for your own peace of mind, but do not be railroaded into doing something that you don't want to do. I wish you all the best. Good Luck!
2007-01-27 08:35:28 · answer #4 · answered by maria bartoninfrance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a lot of truth in the saying 'A problem shared is a problem halved'.
You can either talk to your friend or someone you know and trust, or maybe it would be easier to talk to a stranger.
I see someone else has already given you the number for childline, I think that would be a great place to ring, or the samaritans or what about your doctor?
Good luck, I hope everything works out okay for you. xxx
2007-01-27 08:48:59 · answer #5 · answered by Take me to Venice 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi sweetheart, you sound very scarred and upset, plz talk to your friend, what ever it is that happened you can get help with it, i cant really give u any advice as i don't know what happened but if it was something u said no to then don't worry no matter wot u must tell someone be it a friend relative or even a neighbour who u feel u can talk to, and if it is something u said yes to but now feel guilty or sad by it and regret it, try talking to someone u know wont spread it around and someone who u can talk to, wot ever it is, it wont seem so bad once u have told someone a problem shared is a problem halved as they say, if you want you can e-mail me eleanorstarkie@yahoo.co.uk and talk to me, plz do trust someone and get the help you r desperately in need of, good luck what ever u decide to do xxxxx
2007-01-27 10:08:30 · answer #6 · answered by whitleylass 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to find someone to talk to about it. Maybe you can phone the samaritans? Either way you have to get it off your chest, I'm not sure telling someone you know is the best route if it's as bad as you are making out. You could always befriend someone on MySpace out of random and try and get some advice from them... that way you will never get any bad feedback? That's rubbish, don't listen to me, there's bound to be someone smarter than me answering this...
My warmest wishes to you, I really do hope you get as much help as possible.
Good Luck.
2007-01-27 08:50:58 · answer #7 · answered by tituseast 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont know how old are you, but I think that you must tell someone what happened, and you have to tell it to someone older than you, like a teacher. Tell them you're scared and you need help. Dont feel embarrased, if someone did something to you it was not your fault. Talk to a teacher if you cant talk to your parents. They will help you.
God loves you and he will help you too, even you can't feel it at the moment.
2007-01-27 11:10:51 · answer #8 · answered by Mila S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what ever is upsetting you needs to be shared with someone asap, you cant keep it to your self. Try and talk to your mum if possible I am sure that she will be there for you no matter what. If you ant talk to her directly then why not try and write her a letter explaing things. If its a personal problem make an appointment to see your doctor or even your school nurse, these people can help it will keep in confidence if thats what you want. good luck and take care
2007-01-27 10:27:59 · answer #9 · answered by thedaddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're 18 or older, you make your own decisions, but I still encourage you to sit down with a counselor or religious leader, depending on what is most comfortable for you. You need to get this off your chest.
If you're under 18, then you should talk to your school counselor or parents, even if it is hard.
Please also remember that you there are lots of support groups out there for women who have gone through various situations in life, like what you may be facing. You don't have to go through this alone.
2007-01-27 08:32:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This must be very difficult for you but if you really feel you can trust your friend you should tell them as a problem shared is a problem halved and all that and also once you tell them, they can offer you advice on what you should do next. Good luck x
2007-01-27 08:29:23 · answer #11 · answered by katrina2971 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋