i am going to be 20 and i dont want to be married any more at times i just want to party and have fun but at other times i just want to be the best dad and husband i can be want should i do.
2007-01-27 08:05:13 · 18 answers · asked by mist 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You mae a committment to your wife. Be a man and stick to it. Your partying days are over.
2007-01-27 08:09:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
look man... my bf is 20 and im 34.... we are not married but have been together for 3 years now...there comes a point in time when you need to just grow up and accept responsabilitys for exacally what they are. why cant you and your girl get a sitter ,and go out with friends and have a good time.??? if you girl isint willing to do things like that- then she is the problem. everyone regaurdless of age needs and deserves a good time out now and then. perhaps you can be allowed to go out with friends a few times a month? and then she can have a girls night out ? there is a way to have fun sometimes and be a good husband /father. good luck man!
2007-01-27 16:58:40 · answer #2 · answered by pinksgirlfriend 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have too much of one world, and not enough of the other. This can be a simple fix if you even things out a little. Make one night a week, your night. Go out with the guys and get drunk if you want. It's a good release to just relax and be yourself. After some time you'll out grow it and you'll want to stay home. I know cuz I had to do this too, after it got old, I quit going out as often. Maybe once a month and then less than that too. Your wife may want her own night out too. Just don't cheat cuz that's a sure way to lose your family.
2007-01-27 16:14:13 · answer #3 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is full of choices and they affect everything that happens...........If you still love your wife and I mean really love her.....then partying and hanging out with the friends are things of the past..........If you do not love her any more than you should do yourself and her a favor and end it now.......Because she will not want to be with you if you do not love her. It is hard to be parents at a young age and I understand that sometimes it really sucks but when you love someone and you have kids it is time ti grow up and you made that choice and now you have to decide what you want...........Just be careful and think about how you choices now affect other people than just you
2007-01-27 18:41:20 · answer #4 · answered by colston5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really feel this way you should have never married to begin with, this is one big reason for divorce today, why did you marry in the first place. you should have loved her to start, think about it you now have a wife a baby a family , seek some help and grow up be the man you started out to be, take good care of your family and enjoy, life is to short
2007-01-27 16:19:01 · answer #5 · answered by skip3800 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, you made the commitment, stick to it. Consider your child and the father he deserves, not to mention how youur wife would feel. Maybe you guys should talk about it together, she's probably feeling much like you are. Partying never ends well if you're ina relationship, drinking isn't good for decision making. Maybe you guys could get a sitter once in a while and figure out something you like to do together.
2007-01-27 16:12:11 · answer #6 · answered by Jennylind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't you and your wife get a sitter and go party together, you have to work at a marriage but that includes working to making it more fun and not becoming boring, so take your wife out and go on a date or party, whatever it takes. Good luck
2007-01-27 16:29:35 · answer #7 · answered by pa.maureen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up. When you married her...it became a contract. Terms include being a husband and father.... not a partier. If you want to party.... then divorce her...she deserves a dedicated husband not a boy pretending to be a man.
2007-01-27 16:14:16 · answer #8 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you aren't mature enough for marriage. Grow up and stick by your wife and family. Don't throw it all away because you want to go out and get drunk and party hardy. You made that decision when you said "i do." Don't run off and get a divorce, but you sound pretty immature so I won't hold my breath on that. I am this close to going off, but it's not worth my time. Grow up and take care of your wife and family. You're not missing much.
2007-01-27 16:10:24 · answer #9 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were too young, still are too young for these responsibilities and its natural to feel this way. Why not talk to your wife, tell her that you need some time alone in which you can just enjoy yourself with your friends. You know sort of recharging your batteries. Maybe say a couple of evenings every week.
2007-01-27 16:15:20 · answer #10 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I respect you decision to be the best father and husband.I really think you should evaluate yourself. What means more to you? Your wife and children or partying? Simple answer even I know the answer to. Ask children if in doubt/
2007-01-27 20:04:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋