My baby daddy broke up with me 2 months ago. He tells me "it's not you, it's me." And, three days later, he's with someone else. We were living together, and drove the same car. He left with the car that I helped him pay for, and stuck me with this place by myself. I recovered pretty easily; I mean, I'm still hurt, but I continued going to school, and working out. I take the bus everywhere and I try to stay as independant as possible. I don't ask him for anything. We really don't even talk anymore. But, I don't have any family out here, and his family took me under their wings. Now, no one talks to me. I am so lonely and scared. It seems as though he is so much better off with out me, b/c he has his families support. He is doing so well for himself right now. New car, new job, new place with his g/f. I kinda feel as though he's trying to replace me. She is kind of taking on my role as our daughter's mother. I am so uncomfortable with that. Why is he doing this to me?
2007-01-27 07:54:29 · 10 answers · asked by Stefi13 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He probably had this women on the side..before you broke up. i want to commend you on how well you are handling the situation. It sounds so rough but you are doing so well. Why not move back home with your daughter to where you have support? It might seem like a hard decision because your babies dad is there but at the same time his family is being very cold and so is he so what is there for you in that town anyways? Make suer you leave the door open for a relationship between the two..but you dont need to do anything rash just consider the possibilities..you dont need to be miserable on his account or do anything for him. Also get the car if you are in custody of the baby most of the time..and keep your chin up..you sound positive and happy and I wish you the best.
2007-01-27 16:05:01 · answer #1 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just decided he was done with you. He had that girl before you two broke up. Probibly been with her for quite a while. I think that the guy is a major as shole for taking the car. Leaving you there with out a car to cart your daughter around. You are doing awesome though. I think that you should limit the time your daughter spends around the new girl, just because you can. You can't tell daddy that she can't be around her but you can tell daddy that you have plans with her. Look into some community activities you can bring your daughter to, to get out of the house and meet some new friends.
2007-01-27 08:10:41 · answer #2 · answered by Tasha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would it be possible for you to move near YOUR family, or friends at least? You've done fine so far, but longterm, you're going to need a good network of friends and family. If that's not possible, then you need to get out more and try to make some friends. He is a heartless somebody that never loved you from the start. I know you're hurt, but remember this.....the wind doesn't blow from the same direction all the time. His day is coming!!! Your life will improve dramatically in a short period of time, because you have the right attitude. Good Luck!!
2007-01-27 08:07:33 · answer #3 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe he is trying to make you feel bad so he can take control of you and everything around you even maybe your child. But if I was you I woudl beat him to the punch and file for child support on him and hvae him pay some of your bills too. It seems once he got rid of you he doesn't seem to care so you do the same to him. And forget about his family because when you do file on him they will turn on you but don't back out till you get what you want. HE should be ashamed of himself.
2007-01-27 08:17:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I really hate to say this, but I think that is the price someone pays for shacking up and haivng kids without being married. He's obvoiusly scum and you need to put your foot down and not let your little girl go over to visit your husband with the girlfriend there. You don't know what kind of person she is, you need to get to know her before you send your little one over with your scummy ex and the homewrecker. You have these rights, go to court or do something to protect your child. You are UNCOMFORTABLE, do not let your girl go over there anymore. Move on with your life without this scum bag. You can do better.
2007-01-27 08:01:28 · answer #5 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well,could it have anything to do with you having sex
with him without being his legal wife,and then making
matters worse by having a kid out of wedlock?
A guy who can get all of this for free will not want you
for very long because he has no respect for you,& he
feels he doesn't have to respect any woman who won't
respect herself! Even the creepy guys want a woman
who respects herself as hard as this is to accept,it's
true!!!
2007-01-27 08:06:30 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
she is not your daughters mother. let her know that . be firm.
he is doing well. so can you. you can do better. get your courage and confidence together and go for it, don't let them or anyone stand in the way of you and your daughter,
2007-01-27 08:13:53 · answer #7 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible to move back to your hometown ? If so, take your daughter and start your new life there.
2007-01-27 10:44:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cause he's a piece of sh*t. And there's not a man in his family.
2007-01-27 08:02:27 · answer #9 · answered by Gasman 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is it too late to put the kid out for adoption?
2007-01-27 08:02:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋