is it looks?? or is it more than that?? im nearly 30 and a single mum, where could i be going wrong?
2007-01-27 07:32:09 · 36 answers · asked by marie s 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
...besides big boobs?
Seriously, todays man is no different than yesterday's, if they are on the make, it's just T&A...and probably most men in their 30's are either coming out of a marriage/relationship gone wrong, they are just looking for 'friends with benefits' which is not all that bad...my advice, just be yourself and when the time is right the man you are looking for will appear. ;)
2007-01-27 07:42:12 · answer #1 · answered by 49erfan 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i am 50, male, white, english and single now.
i look for looks initially, thats what attracts firstly and those looks i have defined very clearly and i rarely go for anyone outside my remit. she would be asian,chinese,japanese etc those sort of looks. then it's personality and whether the chemistry is there, then if those things are in place i am interested and it develops from there.
initially i would not go for a woman with dependent children cos i now have freedom to travel and no dependent kids so i would like to keep that but having said this i have recently met a woman who has 2 dependent children and although looks were fantastic we really didn't hit it off in any other department so we remain friends although i was willing to give it a go.
i have to say that at 50 i can't be so choosy nowadays but if someone comes along i would give it a go.
i hope this helps, but having a child does make a difference to a guy, there has to be some comittment there initially by the guy cos a child is in the relationship too. i have been a single dad too so i would say that you have to treasure your child firstly and anyone who comes along will have to take second place i am sure you know this anyway and you are a responsible mother.
good luck to you, there is someone out there for you just be patient.xx ps,call me if you get desperate, joke.
2007-01-27 07:50:16 · answer #2 · answered by matured 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are being yourself...you're not doing anything wrong....
It is likely that you are just in-between. You have to remember....your age group of men are usually married. If you go a few years younger you might find some guys but be prepared for a guy that only wants sex without committment. If you go a few years older than usual, thats your best bet... Normally they are looking for a new start, are financially more secure and gainfully employed.
I take it, by using the term Mum...you are in the UK. It's a shame you're not closer..... because I'm one of those available slightly older guys............
2007-01-27 07:43:59 · answer #3 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
looks are important. you have to stay in shape, you cant get to fat. cooking is important to some but not as much as you would think its something we can do for are self's. keeping a clean house, nobody likes a total slob. dressing nice, and attractive so you look nice to his friends. if you are to far in dept. with credit card are other bills this could scare a guy away. lack of ambition, and or a job. guys today don't want to be with some one that they have to pay for every thing. i don't care what these other guys say looks mater allot no guy wants a ugly woman hanging on them that's over weight, if you think this might be the problem lower your standards if you are fat and ugly go out with fat and ugly guys. guys like a woman that have no chance on becoming a fiance burden. if you try to boss the guys around they don't like that, if you nag allot that's bad to. if you got looks just be cool to the guys. and then there's sex ,if your not giving good sex to your man, are maybe no sex your going to be single along time or be in a unhappy relationship,
2007-01-27 08:32:51 · answer #4 · answered by devil weed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends what you mean.
First off, looks get you noticed. Simple basic stuff like a good figure, not too fat, not too skinny, nice hair, nice eyes.
Secondly sociability. A good (or at least similar) sense of humour to the guy in question, easy in conversation, not too dull but not too psycho, fun to be around.
Thirdly accessability. There's no sense trying to get blood out of a stone. Most chaps won't hang around too long with a girl who keeps holding out on him for no good reason (if that's the way things are going).
Finally minimal impact on already established life. Most guys value their independence more than they let on. They aren't prepared to stick around with some chick who upsets the apple cart (so to speak) and immediately starts to dominate his life.
Good luck with this. It's a bloody mine-field.
Cheers.
2007-01-27 07:44:03 · answer #5 · answered by chopchubes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks gets you noticed but without a down-to-earth personality, it's useless. If you have the personality but not the supermodel type, good enough. You still have a lot of time, don't trip just cuz you're 30 cuz if you trip over it, you'll become too clingy on every guy that comes around.
2007-01-27 07:40:22 · answer #6 · answered by Mag1527 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
generally looks are the initial attraction but as Danielle wells has porved, you can be beautiful but a total looser. I think confidence is what really matters, if your confident in yourself and your worth, others will admire that. Your 30 so what, thats young. I for most men, looks are just a bonus. If your a nice person thats all that counts, value yourself
2007-01-27 07:42:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The good things, honestly, love, trust, looks are an advantage but not necessary if the first few are all there, and someone who you can talk to, aim for our best friend as well as your boyfriend, that way you get 2 people in one package. Dont give up and find someone who loves both you and your child.
2007-01-27 07:37:39 · answer #8 · answered by PleaseNoMoreNumbers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just try to talk with u...
U didn't answer my Question...
Many women they don't like honest answers...
YET they ask from guy to be honest... and when guys are honest they get offended....
The truth is that many guys that I know and me we all looking 4 women be sexy.... if they pass this stage.. then they would get highest credit to be our gf or wife... the other things comes after sex...
Many guys look 4 women wealth in first step... I hate those guys..
2007-01-27 07:52:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The jerks look for hot girls [mainly looks] and the guys with a heart looks for personally...so show off ur persoanlly and dont be fake! But mainly, guys like shy girls
2007-01-27 08:01:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋