I love my son, and he is a good kid but... His mood swings are dramatic to say the least. One moment he is all hugs, the next he does not want to be around me. I cannot tell you how many times I have heard, mama, you do not understand. Or mama, things have changed scince you were a teenager. This is my favorite, mom, you do not listen to me.I do not know who I am coming home to.Help??!!! Tell me what you did when raising your teenager to keep your sanity?
2007-01-27 07:10:07 · 5 answers · asked by 2fine4u 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I had 3 sons, all teens at once (17, 15. 14 & etc)! All you can do is take it one day at a time, be patient, and this too shall pass!
My oldest refused to SPEAK to me for 3 whole months once! He is now my most loving son.
It is a hard time of life for BOTH of you, but I promise it will be short-lived.
Good luck to both of you, & God bless.
2007-01-27 07:32:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son is testing to see if he is still safe with you or if you're going to make him sink or swim on his own. God help me I went through this with three!! Their hormones are raging that's why they are Jeckle and Hyde. With the third one I was finally going to college...majoring in Mental Health. I raised my alone from the time my youngest was 1 1/2 and my oldest was 7 1/2. Get yourself a tee shirt that says "Insanity is hereditary, you get it form you children and learn to laugh. When your son insists on something you've said "NO" to, just laugh and say "NO" again. When he gives you a hug smile and tell him the answer is still "NO". Tell him you know things are different now....They're worse and that's why he will do it your way until you can check it out. Get to know all his friends and their parents. Listen to some of his music... check out his texts, show up at his school just to have a look around and get the lay of the land. He'll say he's embarrassed, but it's your job as his mother to know who he's hanging with and what they are doing. My kids friends always wanted to hang out at our house because I really cared what went on with them. The ones that didn't want to come to the house were history pretty quick. Keep your eyes open for "Eddie Haskel" there's one in every crowd.
2007-01-27 20:08:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom tried really hard to understand me ,there were times when she wanted to throttle me and she still says the aliens came and got me when I was 12 and didn't bring me back until I was 20. It sounds like you're doing your best with your son let him know you love him and pray pray pray. Hang in there the alins will bring him back soon
2007-01-27 07:31:49 · answer #3 · answered by sassygrrll7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be firm, be gentle, NEVER relax the rules (respect your parent is one of the rules), never relax the consequences of ungentlemanly behavior, NEVER miss an opportunity to tell him you love him and think he has a good head on his shoulders (don't tell him that when he's done something stupid), and repeat the last one over and over and over and over and over.
2007-01-27 07:37:55 · answer #4 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no clue
I think maybe when he says "you don't listen", sit down with him for a few hours and listen, maybe get a nice lunch or something too.
worry more about his sanity than your own.
2007-01-27 07:17:58 · answer #5 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋