Loosing friends?

Question

I feel like everyone I know is slipping threw my finger tips. My best friend is too busy for me now((even though this weekend she said she is relaxing but still doesn't want to hang out with me even though we havent hung out buy ourselves for like 3months now.)) And I feel like if i'm important enough to her then I think she can spare 1hour of her relaxation time to just go see a movie with me or something and with my other friend doesn't seem to talk to me anymore during lunch because she's talking to her other friends. My brother is moveing away because he's getting married. All the people I care about most seem to be just dissapearing. I feel so darn alone and I feel selfish because they have their own lives and I shouldn't be interfeering....what should I do?

Yet she hung out with a group of friends on Friday with no trouble once so ever. So I sort of felt bad for that too.

Also, I tried telling her this but she always says the same thing thing 'Why are you so mean to me?" and i'm like "What? How am I mean? I'm not even yelling all i'm saying is that we need to hang out more just the two of us." then she goes on this rampage on how I don't except her and I need to be like her other friends because her other friends treat her better.....and i'm just sitting here confused because I do accept her for who she is it's just that when it comes to my feelings she doesn't care. When ever we talk she always has to have it point to her somehow. IT's sort of annoying. and yes I tried telling her this too but same rampage.

Answer 1

its natural to feel this way, not selfish at all. we all need friends and when things change so drastically, its hard to adjust. you could let them know how its affecting you and tell them that you want to maintain contact no matter where they are.
sometimes people need space, and it isnt personal, its just life. people all have stress and problems, and we all need "me time" to sort them through.
maybe thats what you need, too, is a bit of time to spoil yourself on your own and go to a movie by yourself, or go to the mall. be your own best friend and you wont miss your friends as much when they need space.
good luck.

Answer 2

It sounds like this is a very difficult time for you since you are so use to having somebody there. I would try to talk to her and ask her why she's acting this way. Be up front with her about your feelings. If you can't see yourself doing that, then I would suggest for you to make your own friends or just be independent. Who needs people like her anyway, she probably doesn't want to hang out with you because she's spending all her energy on her other friends. Look I had friends like that myself and when that happened to me I decided to forget them and be happy with myself. You can't depend on anybody to make you happy and that's the truth girl. So, do other things to keep your mind at ease and be happy. Before you know it she will be calling you...trust me.

Answer 3

It seems you are very sensitive about the case , just pretend that you do not care about it , and you are busy enough so if your Friends want to spend sometimes with you , they have to arrange it with you one or two days before. Anyway for me the best Friend is a book.

Answer 4

I always tell younger people to make as many friends as possible in there lifetimes. Expand your horizons and explore the idea of doing this. If she doesn't want to hang out with you, then don't waste another minute worrying about it.

Answer 5

Find some hobbies of your own. These people are not your true friends if they dont make an effort.
Make your own life and find interests where you can meet people.

Answer 6

It's okay to feel the way you do it just means its time to make new friends,thats all.

Answer 7

talk to your friends/ask what the problem is
why they haven't been your friends
and make new Friends .
your brother has his life now but you can still talk to him.
keep in contact .