i have a page on yahoo 360 and so does my female friend and we jus started being interested in oneanother romantically. today i told her alot of her men on her page like her and she said i disrespected her by calling them " her men"... was i wrong for saying somthing jokingly to a point where i was direspecting her?
2007-01-27 06:59:51 · 19 answers · asked by ton1ishere 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
She probably thought you were inferring or insinuating that she was some kind of a sl*t or something. Women are more sensitive to this than men because of the double standard. Just apologize and tell her you didn't mean to offend her.
2007-01-27 22:22:39 · answer #1 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To my knowledge, what you had said shouldn't have bothered her like that. She must have been upset due to another reason. You could have said something far much worse than what you had said but you didn't. When someone takes offensive from something really petty as this, then usually there is another reason for the behavior. In my opinion, you didn't disrespect her in anyway, unfortunately though, she thinks you did. What I would do if you really like her is to make amends by apologizing to the point that you were only joking and that you didn't mean any harm by saying what you did. Then give her her space and let it ride.
2007-01-27 15:22:12 · answer #2 · answered by shuggabhugga05 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is being far too sensitive, you shouldn't have upset her by saying that, you were just initiating the fact that they were on her page, so they were "her" men... Give her space, maybe something is bothering her other then your comment, you never know, someone could have said something to her about how she has a lot of men on her page and looks like a slut, something mean, and then you saying that maybe just set off a trigger, but I wouldn't worry too much about it, I mean, there was nothing wrong with that. Good luck!
2007-01-27 15:04:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My female friends and I joke like that together all the time. Chances are that she is just being overly sensitive because she likes you, and your statement made her worried that you think of her as having a lot of men, thus potentially damaging her chances with you. It isn't something that you did wrong, but I would let her know that you don't really think that about her. She will probably let it go then.
2007-01-27 16:25:08 · answer #4 · answered by Technopygmalion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you MEANT IT DISRESPECTINGLY, then it was, otherwise it was simply a miscommunication. YOU KNOW HOW you meant it, so just be honest with yourself! I don't care either way, this is between the two of YOU. If you didn't disrespect her, tell her you didn't and drop it, don't apologize for something you didn't do, or it will never end. Just let it be her problem, AS IT IS.
2007-01-27 16:24:25 · answer #5 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is wound a little too tightly. Apparently she is feeling guilty over something.
Tell her to chill out, you meant no disrespect, and if you two can't joke around with each other or even give each other constructive criticism, your relationship will not be a healthy one.
2007-01-27 15:13:21 · answer #6 · answered by Nepetarias 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It might be that because you are getting romantic she thinks you think the relationship is a joke by referring to them as "her men" or she might think your not taking her sexuality seriously.
Just let her know you were joking, and ask her to explain to you how it hurt her so you get where shes coming from and can avoid it in the future.
Good luck!
2007-01-28 02:56:31 · answer #7 · answered by Macca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't how you were disrespectful and if I were you I would consider getting involved with some who is so sensitive about just a simple comment.
2007-01-27 15:05:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this girl is crazy and you should end any romantic situations. I don't think that's a disrespectful comment at all. She is really defensive about something, and you really don't want to waste your time with it.
2007-01-27 15:04:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you did not disrespect her. At the same time, it is not really not up to us to say what disrespects HER.
One thing is for sure: She has got issues. BIG issues. My advice is to run. Fast.
2007-01-27 15:27:24 · answer #10 · answered by eyedoc999 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋