Why do guys start thinking that you would cheat on them?

Question

It is completely obvious that I am interested in noone else. I have friends that have been around for many years and I haven't dated them ever. Yet...he is suspicious and has started asking randomly about everyone, even people that I haven't met before.

Is he getting wandering eyes? Is that the problem? He is young and good looking. He would never cheat...but why the questions?

Answer 1

I asked my ex-wife while married if she was cheating. She told me that as much as I was focused on it, I must be guilty of it. The truth was no I had never cheated nor even considered it. The problem that led me to believe that she might was I felt less connected with her. She use to smile when I walked in a room. She would touch me when passing by. She started heading to bed alone, when she use to ask "ready for bed?". No she never cheated on me, I know that now for a fact. The problem was us as a couple. We go so tied up at our jobs, she was in corporate america new, trying to move her way up, my remodeling business was just getting going and jobs coming in. We forgot to take time for each other. In the begining I would call her at work just to say I was thinking of you, or coming home I would stop and buy just a flower, just something to let her know I loved her and she was on my mind. She did the same. As years went by we got in a "comfortable" relationship, we took each others love forgranted. We became business partners more than husband and wife.
I think a person or couple need to change things up once in a while, do somthing different. Go home get dressed up like you did for your first date, pre arrange the plans, then ask your spouse out on a date. Dosn't matter how long you have been married. The point is no matter how long you have been together, always take time to let the other know how you feel about them.

Answer 2

No matter how good looking a guy is they can still have insecurities. Getting turned down once can bruise their ego horribly. He might be thinking that he's not good enough for you, which is usually the ultimate reason why relationships fall apart. If he is cheating, or thinking about it, he might suspect that you'd do the same.
The worst reason why guys would accuse their girls of cheating is a way to break them down emotionally. This is how many mentally and physically abusive relationships start. I don't think this is one of those times. I really think that it sounds like insecurity. Telling him now that this could ultimately end your relationship would be the quickest way to curb this. If it continues, leave.

Answer 3

Its simple honey....guys are insecure. They may seem tough n macho from outside but they are just little boys from inside. Now look at my example..I am engaged and about to get married. My fiance is settled overseas and hence i'l be moving there after my wedding BUT he's like "i hope you don't leave me...i'l neva eva seperate ways with you in my life in any condition" now the point is that I LOOOOOOOOOOVE HIM and can neva imagine of doing that even in my wildest dreamz. But males being males just get insecure over little little reasons. Don't worry it's just his little boy of inside doing the talking :)

Answer 4

sometimes it's the cheater who does the accusing, he is insecure because he is cheating, or may be thinking of it, and feels guilty and is transferring it onto u. when i was accused of cheating by my ex, and i had no idea where it was coming from, found out he was secretly having an affair himself.

Answer 5

i say he's thinking about cheating or already has. Then there is the insecurity thing and next comes the abuse....that's what my ex was like.

Answer 6

Maybe...a guilty conscience.