i need serious answers about being rough?

Question

is there something wrong with me ..?
part of my fantasy is about being dominated by a male and doing it rough.(not to the bondage extend). suggest to my husband... but after the whole rough sex thing .. i literally cried and feel disgusted at myself. i am not sure why is it that i feel so violated when i was the one who sugested and wanted to try it ..
even though we are still doing it .. its stilk bothers me .. why ??

Answer 1

u only worried whta others thing or ur husband is not being rough enough with u ofcourse the third thing is that you subconciously like the idea that someone roughs u up has his way with u and then u cry about it... some girls get off on that as well... maybe that is ur deal... just accept it.. whatever it is and move on..

Answer 2

Your husband's friend is living the worst part of his life, and in his shock, he just doesn't know what to do about it. Theres not much that you or your husband can do to make this fellow do anything when hes not ready to. Under the law, its also very hard for a husband to throw his wife out of the matrimonial home, but its very easy for a wife to get the husband out; all she has to do is claim that he hit her ( No proof needed ) or that shes " afraid " of him ( Ditto ). The law isn't interested in the complainant is a man, thats just the way that that is. If that fellow were to move out, he'd be kissing the house and his stuff goodbye, so he shouldn't leave. What your husband needs to do is to tell his pal that, no matter what, he will be there for him, and that he'll help any way that he can. Thats true friendship.

Answer 3

Sexual fantasy is a great thing, and I have many of the same fantasies as well. Just a guess - hubby may not quite understand yet how to push the envelope and satisfy this fantasy without taking it just a step too far. Or - the whole thing works better as fantasy than reality. I admire your open-mindedness and willingness to take a chance. Take care.

Answer 4

You probally really need to get some kind of locked in emotions out about this and aren't and you thought rough sex would help. But because it didn't you are crying. Try thinking of why you really want to b rough and or handled, is it really a turn on or just because he hasn't been handling you the right way, so you now out of anger want it rough. But really you want to be having way better sex.

Answer 5

It may be because you are use to rough sex,and want your husband to be the same way.The trouble with that is,even though the sex you have with your husband is not bondage or rough,what your wanting him to do could lead to abusive sex.Which is far more dangerous.For you.

Answer 6

There is a line between fantasy and reality. It is always hard to make the two match.

You may continue with it, discuss it further with you hubby and see what can be changed to make it better.

You may need to put the fantasy back into your head.

But either way discuss it and decide what is worth it.

Answer 7

Trying it is not a sin, it can be a turn on for some. However, it is also not a sin for it not to be right for you. Had you ever been violated, then that could be the problem. If not, then it's just not for you. It might feel unloving to you. Try talking to him and telling him this isn't what you thought it would be, and you just can't do that anymore. He should understand.

Answer 8

You probably feel disgusted about yourself, because your education taught you to feel that way.
But sexual fantasies are play, a sexual outlet of emotions, and I don't think you have to feel guilty about how you feel: nobody is hurt, afterwards you cuddle up and are consoled by the very person you loved most.

Answer 9

you probably were taught to believe violence is wrong. tell him to stop.