2007-01-27 06:35:23 · 14 answers · asked by gone 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I guess I would use a prison analogy, since prisoners serving 25-to-life have no one else to turn to for these needs. I don't think I could do anything sexual with another male, but I'm so hard-up for companionship right about now that I have decided not to rule anything out. Even people 10-15 years younger than me have had girlfriends before.
2007-01-27 06:40:14 · update #1
No, the prisoner analogy is wrong. Prisoners don't necessarily hate women, just being without women. While in Prison, they may engage in homosexual acts, but they are still STRAIGHT! They still fantasize about women, they dream about women, they imagine themselves with women, but their acts are homosexual out of requirements. When they leave prison, they go back to engaging in "straight acts."
What your talking about is misplaced anger, and although it can lead to homosexual acts, it too is something a straight person has. This is a disorder towards women, a type of "misogny" or borderline personality disorder aimed at women.
2007-01-27 07:33:51 · answer #1 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, that doesn't happen, you CANNOT just "turn" gay.
I think I can understand what you define "hatred" towards girls, though I think you should replace the word "hatred" with something else, because hate, is a strong word, and I know that is not how you feel.
You are only gay if you have physical and emotional feelings for men, if you do, this did not happen as a consequence of not having dated for a long time -- you were always gay.
Maybe you are too shy to approach the opposit sex, that is ok, or maybe you just don't know how to approach a woman, that is OK, too.
You are not alone, I am sure there are other people carrying the same experience.
Maybe you want to try get some theraphy, or to join some group support. If you live in a large city, it should be easy to find one.
Best wishes
2007-01-27 15:02:53 · answer #2 · answered by Kedar 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it would turn someone gay, but they could choose to be if they wanted to. But how could you have never had a girlfriend? There are lots of desperately lonely girls out there. Try dating an average girl instead of insisting on the home coming queen type. Or do whatever you need to, just don't do anything you don't really want to do. Be careful and good luck.
2007-01-27 14:47:57 · answer #3 · answered by DJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one, I don't think your gay just because girls shun you, and not all girls will do that. I mean, soon enough, the right girl will come around, you just can't look for her. Rejection is hard, but you obviously don't have any attraction towards a male, so I seriously doubt your gay, but just stop looking, and have fun, maybe go out more. Good luck
2007-01-27 14:43:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but at that point just about anything would look good. I think that the people in prison who rape other men either were gay from the start or pretend that it's a woman.
2007-01-27 14:45:14 · answer #5 · answered by Rageling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the outside, I would generally question the direction of causality there, but if someone told me that's what happened I guess I wouldn't put it out of the question. I can only ever speak to MY experience, and in my experience, that's not what happened to me and I've never met anyone that that's happened to.
2007-01-27 22:29:52 · answer #6 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow 25 is a long time....maybe your standards are too high or maybe you need to seek a counselor to work out some social issues you might have.
2007-01-27 15:27:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Simply by your definition what you are experiencing is a combination of bitterness and desperation. From what you have said, you would be willing to sleep with a girl that did not "shun" you. Homosexuals don't want to sleep with women, period.
2007-01-27 14:54:06 · answer #8 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've gone thru 33 years of rejection from girls.. and because of this i often have "i hate women" phases.. but that doesn't mean i lose sexual attraction. i just chose to be alone and put up a mental shield.
then again, i did recently discover i am bi.. but i still like girls and always will..
could be you are bi too and just didn't realize it. i think more people are bi than they realize because we are conditioned in a society to assume we are straight and to assume that gay is nor normal.. well, it is normal!
2007-01-27 14:53:47 · answer #9 · answered by Jeff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lower your standards and get yourself in social situations more. Ask a friend or close relative what your major faults are, why are you not popular or able to get girls, and see what you can do to fix that. Nothing wrong, of course, with being attracted to guys too, lots of bisexual guys out there that enjoy sex with anyone and don't have hangups about same sex sex.
2007-01-27 14:44:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋