she is living at home with her mother and her mother treats her like ****, this isn't all because she is pregnant this has been going on for a very long time i was wondering if anybody had any ideas on some help she has tried to get a job and her mom won't take her anywhere to look for one she applied for jobs online i can't drive so i can't take her myself her mom won't take her to hoosier healthwise to turn in the forms to get insurance for the baby and she basically could care less about her would this be considered abuse? they go get food for themselves and could care less about her i think that does fall under child neglect..i would really appreciate some answers from people that care and know what they are talking about thanx
2007-01-27 06:06:54 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
That seem horrible! wow! well i understand and i think u should talk to your girlfriend about it and you guys should all talk about it together. your girlfriend should probably be taking pregnacy classes to learn how to deliver the baby without stress or anxiety which makes pain during labor and delivering much worse.the classes also would help her learn how to take propper care of the child when it is brought home so you can answer all question you have about anything!
you asked about abuse or neglect, i would say a little neglect. take a look at this website i used and scroll down past abuse to neglect. it could be a little. the baby should have proper medical care.
I hope this helps! Good luck and congrats!
2007-01-27 06:42:10 · answer #1 · answered by kate10914 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's in a bad situation. Even if it's neglect, what can they do ? Put her and the baby in foster care. That might be worse. The best thing is for her to get out of there. Are you guys still in school? I hope so. I had a child at 16 so I know what I'm saying. Stay in school. Go to college. Get your education. Your life will be so much better. Can your girlfriend live with you or maybe with a family member? I hope everything goes well for you guys. I'll keep you in my prayers.
2007-01-27 14:57:11 · answer #2 · answered by cinnycinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have public transportation in the town you live in? A bus? Subway? anything? you and your girlfriend can go to social services together and you can help her get whatever help she can get from them. Yes, that would be neglect at best, it is her mother's responsibility to take care of her and feed her, but if her mother isn't doing that, you two are old enough to do it for yourselves. Does she have any other relatives in the area? Maybe she can talk to them about letting her live with them, of course they need to be accepting of you and allow you to see her or else I wouldn't move in with them or it will cause problems for you two. The other thing is, if your girlfriend is pregnant, then she should probably shouldn't be just now trying to get a job, she will only be working for a little while so it would be better for you to get a job and help her get whatever financial assistance she can from the county you live in. I wish you luck, and if none of those options work, try your church if you are active, they may have a program to help you out.
2007-01-27 16:37:55 · answer #3 · answered by hargonagain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your right it is child neglect. It probably intensified since your girlfriend found out she was pregnant. If your mom or dad is supporting you both through this helping in anyway they can, ask if they can help her get to Hoosier health wise and to interviews. Also she's almost seventeen and can emancipate herself from her parents. She could file for it now, but it takes at least a year to complete the process.
2007-01-27 16:26:45 · answer #4 · answered by Allyson B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is so hard trying to be an adult and take care of her and your baby when those around you seem to try to make it tougher. You are a good man to try. Go to the Family Services office yourself and talk to a worker about what is happening. The worker can tell you how he/she can help and where to go to get some more help. Your girlfriend can get out of the house other ways than a job but it won't be easy. I think you will be a good dad if you continue to show this kind of concern and a willingness to help her be a good mom.
2007-01-27 14:48:45 · answer #5 · answered by Huggles-the-wise 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It does sound like child neglect to me. My advice would be to call the cops and see if there's any way you can get her emancipated from her family and let her live with you until you both get an apartment of your own. Explain to the police what's going on and that your girlfriend's pregnant. Good luck.
2007-01-27 15:09:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A call to Social Services in your county would be appropriate to determine what help she could receive there.
2007-01-27 14:42:09 · answer #7 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG HUNNY YES THAT IS CHILD NEGLECT! AND IF YOU TOO ARE HAVING A BABY TOGEATHER DONT YOU THINK YOU SHOULD LIVE TOGEATHER SO YOU CAN BE THERE AT ALL TIMES TO TAKE CARE OF HER
2007-01-27 14:44:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋