This question is in NO way to gloat or be sick. But how can I get my husband to have sex more?? We have a great relationship and I am a very open person - so I do just ask him to get it on more. But he is in the Army and is very tired at the end of the day. I have always had a big sex drive, so for me - 3 times a day would be good. I am tired from working all day too - but if I don't get any it's always on my mind. Any suggestions?
2007-01-27 05:57:12 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I just wanted to say that my husband is very commited to me - so the thought that if he's not getting it from me then he's getting it somewhere else is absolutely wrong. He is a VERY hard worker and he is in a batallion that is very big on P.T. He is always working out - usually they do it 2 times a day. So I know he's exhausted - I just wanted some different view points - cause i'm more than willing to do all the work. ;)
2007-01-27 10:13:27 · update #1
the best way to get him in the mood is to seduce him. Smile, talk sexy, flirt, dress sexy, touch him everywhere, kiss his neck, rub his back, take a shower with him, use a vibrator in front of him, watch porn, eventually he will want to bang you
2007-01-27 06:03:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...if he's in the Army...he may truly be tired. Most guys would say "right on" if they found a girl who wanted it 3 times a day....at first. But a guy does have to have good energy to be a good lover, and if he's worn out, the last thing he's thinking about when he gets home is another body-revving activity. And, if you're asking him on a daily basis, it's only going to put more stress on him to perform, and a stressed guy is NOT an amorous one.
So, here's what I'm suggesting: be open, tell him EXACTLY where you're at, but then show some understanding and tell him that you are interested in more frequent couplings. Tell him you're willing to leave the ball in his court for the most part, but you need him to be cognizant of your drive and need him to find a way to take advantage of opportunities. Then, do it. try to limit yourself to approaching him once a week, at first. Let him be the agressor. If he's not approaching you more than twice a week, remind him that you're flapping in the wind over there, but continue to leave the door open for him.
If he STILL can't find the energy, then for the sake of his spouse, he needs to evaluate where he can cut back....maybe he does some physical activities in his free time that he can do less frequently, or maybe he just needs to get more rest.
2007-01-27 06:55:24 · answer #2 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to find you absolutely ravishing inside and out to want to have sex with you 3 time a day. I have been with 1000 women in my 40+ years and I have only known 1 woman that has brought that kind of desire out of me and she is my future wife. Once a day should not be a problem. Once or more a day with passion and creative, hard driving energy takes a level of love and compatibility that most people will never experience, unfortunately. I have been with this woman for over 2 years and it is still as intense as it was at the beginning. We both feel lucky and blessed to have found each other. As far as your need to have sex 3 times a day, from one very lusty creature to another: Do it yourself.
2007-01-27 06:35:45 · answer #3 · answered by Gregory A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, have a sit down with him and tell him how you feel. Seems weird to me that a man would use the "I'm tired" excuse. Are you sure he's not getting it from somewhere else? I mean most men will have sex at the drop of a hat. If this fails, what about purchasing a vibrator?
2007-01-27 06:11:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest hanging a sex swing. While he is at work. When he comes home and looks around the house, and finds you all ready to go THINGS WILL CHANGE.
We are different. My sex drive was way down. Our sex swing increaced my sex drive up to your level.
I seen a better swing than the one I have on eBay. It looks like one a woman can ejoy as much as the men do.
Here is the link to the swing I am talking about
2007-01-27 06:16:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw, well, Honestly sit him down and talk to him, Let him know that you need more affection, Let him know how much you love him, and that you desire him strongly. Say it in a caring and sensitive way, some men get defensive, if they think we are putting down there sexuality.
Ask him what time of day is his favorite time to have sex, alot of men like morning sex, some like it at night...
Do things to rekindle the spark, pamper him, massage, light some candles, just have a relaxing evening...
Let him know your love for him is so strong, that you need to show him..
Hope this helps some..
2007-01-27 06:08:12 · answer #6 · answered by ~Annette~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you have been married for a long time and age is catching up to him, there is no excuse for him not satisfying you. You should not have to be deprived forever. Do not beg - it will make him push you away more. Your guy is a loser and you should move on.
2007-01-27 08:29:57 · answer #7 · answered by James 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely understand how you feel. My BF is in the Navy and this problem has been going on for some time. Now I am thinking of leaving him.
2007-01-27 07:41:39 · answer #8 · answered by PuNk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't you guys discuss sex and the frequency of it BEFORE you got married? Sometimes our sex drives don't conincide with our partners, that's why all of this should have been brought out before the marriage.
2007-01-27 06:07:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah call me I'll accomadate you......lol
talk to him about it and if that doesnt help go buy yourself a nice new toy or two and let him "catch" you playing with it. If that doesn't get him in the mood check and see if he even has a pulse
2007-01-27 06:15:39 · answer #10 · answered by southernstranger2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋