A mn confronts his wife about having an affair after recieving info from a PI's 2 month investigation.She denies it over and over again to the point where she threatens to leave him if he continues to "interrogate" her. The husband has pictures taken by the PI showing her being very intimate with othr mn.,e-mails,IM chats,cell phone records (calls were invstgtd by the PI revealed the number belonged to the othr mn's address and work). He has the smoking gun.However, he keeps this from her, husband wants to believe that if he encourages her to be honest and she claims what she has done, that he could have a base or platform to work this out with her through counseling. He sits down with her one last time and basicly tells her he is shocked to find out what she has done to him,he wondered where he went wrong,etc. Not knowing what he has on her,she tells him she has had enough of his accusations and decides to leave. Why keep lying knowing you're going to loose the relationship?
2007-01-27 05:44:34 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The mn is a client. I don't give advice to clients. I am curious to know how the cheating mind of a wmn thinks. My experience is men claim what they do if they believe things can change.Wmn are different.
2007-01-27 05:56:11 · update #1
Integrity of being honest is most valid when the person admits truth for the sake of being honest,not for knowing they have been caught. This is not about the husband.It's about the wmn.
2007-01-27 06:05:21 · update #2
The first lie is always the hardest- but it seems like the more a person lies it becomes easier and easier. Some people are such serial liars that they honestly start to BELIEVE in their own lies, even when confronted with the truth.
This woman has buried herself so deep in a pit of lies that even if you throw her a rope to save herself it's so dark she can't see it. I feel really sorry for her, because if her husband is still willing to work on their marriage after this serious breech of trust, he must truly love her, and now she is going to loose him forever. Too bad for her :( I'm sorry.
Please read: "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage." It's a great book.
2007-01-27 06:06:18 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Humble Proclaimer♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the husband if afraid that she is going to hit the roof when she finds out that he hired a PI...
It was very immature and wrong of the husband to go about confronting her in the way that he did. She didn't want to get caught... she is not going to fess up.
The husband should have presented her with the evidence that he had in the first place. He was setting her up to lie to him and that is not an effective way to resolve the situation.
The husband should go to her and confess that he had hired a PI and tell her that he has evidence and if she can get past that (she will be angry because the husband let her lie about it) she and the husband should go to counseling.
This situation was not handled in a good way.
2007-01-27 05:59:29 · answer #2 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend should just move on from her, she will never admit to cheating, even if he shows her the pictures, she will try and explain it. He needs to go and make a better life for himself, with out her.
2007-01-27 05:52:15 · answer #3 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just refuse to be honest. Even with themselves.
They find it better to lose everything than to face being in the wrong.
2007-01-27 05:49:56 · answer #4 · answered by sammbertt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋