2007-01-27 05:40:24 · 13 answers · asked by disintegrationisthebestalbumever 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It took me 6 1/2 years of my 7 year marriage to get to the divorce part. Just when I would be ready to walk out, he would do something that would turn my heart toward him again. Then, within a few months, he would do something once again to show me I shouldn't be there. So many things built up that lead me to see an attorney. I am not certain if we would have divorced when we did if I hadn't filed. But I knew it was completely over when he was a complete jerk at and about my father's funeral. Shortly after that, we had tornadoes that went through where we lived. He didn't even act happy to see me when I could finally get to the house. He should have been all over me telling me he was happy we both were safe. No, he was just ready to go to work. Didn't help there "girl" friends either--though he claims there were none.
2007-01-27 05:52:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anna 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does an instant thing that built up over years count? There was that moment I realized..."I AM DONE and will be leaving". But it took the build up of several years to get to the instant part.
2007-01-27 05:56:59 · answer #2 · answered by Deede 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DRUGS!!!!! I was with him for 15 yrs. We're best friends. We were married in our living room, of our dream home. One day I noticed that we had drifted apart. I went to talk to him about it, & I was told that I was crazy. For 4 1/2 yrs after that day, I faught the hardest fight I could ever dream, for my husband. Every time I would go to him & ask if we could spend some time together, it did just the oppest. So what do you do, go talk to him, or watch him get farther away? I chose talking to him. We faught & faught. I could not beleave my husband did not want to be around me any more or want to talk to me. So finely I left for 2 weeks with out a word, maybe this would get his attention. He found me & and it came down to me or the drugs........ he chose the drugs. I guess my answer is it built up. But let me tell you this, we faught for 4 1/2 yrs to try to make it work, I wish I would have stayed and faught my life time for him.
2007-01-27 06:04:03 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 1st 2 years were GREAT!! But, the last 3 years went downhill quicky. He was a drunk & liked to hit me. The 3rd time is a charm-I pressed charges on his @$$. He was in jail. He couldn't deny anything. He signed the papers & it was done in like a month & a half (thank God we didn't have any kids!!). I am married again to a completely wonderful man.
Good Luck!!
2007-01-27 05:51:58 · answer #4 · answered by cdnllssrshcas 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His addictions finally came to a head, so it was building up and became an instant thing
2007-01-27 06:34:50 · answer #5 · answered by Skinz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married way to young, at 19. We were both changing and becoming different people. I wanted an education and a chance to be myself. He wanted the young, naive person he married, to stay the same. Over the (20) years we had both changed so much that we were completely different people.
2007-01-27 05:45:18 · answer #6 · answered by katydid 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Was abusive (alcoholic) and he cheated, we divorced, then he passed away a few years later after he married someone else...this was 9yrs ago.
I am married to a wonderful man, now.
Life just seems to work out in such interesting ways.
2007-01-27 06:00:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Built up, to the point to where I was abused on a weekly basis, (physically & emotionally)...... I had been with this man off & on for half of my life, but he (secretly) got involved with drugs, and became a "Monster" to me, and our children!!! It was a gradual thing, but it got so bad, I couldn't go anywhere, without taking a child with me, and I never had alone time...... He watched my every move, and even followed me to my destination one time while running errands, while my kids were in school...... He stabbed me, with the point of a knife, on the top of my head, until I saw Bright light-spirts!!! It scared me so bad, alls I could do was carefully plan to move back around family, and once we did, I kicked him out, and filed for devorce and got an "Order of Protection" against him!!! I thought at one time that this man was my life partner, that's how much I loved him!!! It broke my heart, to see him eventually change to become this "Monster of a Man" in which I never understood his hateful demeanor!!!! Until, I finally got to wondering why he always spent so much time in the bathroom, and thats when I started to getting suspicious, and eventually got my answer......thats right around the same time he stabbed the top of my head with the knife, and I slowly began planning our move, and encourageing moving back to Arizona to him..... Believe me, even our children dont miss him, thats so sad!! But, thats the price you pay, when you do drugs, and make a "Carreer" out of it !!!! You lose everything!!! Even those who loved you the most, your own family!!! I personally hate devorce!! But, I had no other options in this matter! And I recently found out that he's still messing with drugs!!! And here it is 3 years after our devorce was final , how sad is that?!!! ANYWAY..........Enough about all of that, didn't mean to write a book on you, sorry!!! smile!!!!
2007-01-27 05:59:35 · answer #8 · answered by Hmg♥Brd 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It built up and got worse over the years
2007-01-27 05:45:03 · answer #9 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my main reason why i divorced my ex husband is cause i found out he was cheating on me with one of my friends and i didnt find out for a whole year.plus he was real mean to me.
2007-01-27 05:53:50 · answer #10 · answered by diondra1216 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋