Childsupport and visitation.?

Question

If a man abandond girlfriend and child do you think he should be able to jump into said childs life like nothing happend? What if he only wanted to see child just becuse the state finaly started to garnis wages for childsupport. also another man has been raising said child like his own?

child is only 3 and has behavioral & developmental issus. also therrapist belives at this time it would confuse the child and upset the childs progress in special school. In this state a court order has to be in place befor bio father has to be alowed to see child.

also bio has threatened in past to take off with said child. and he leagaly has no rights untill court order is in place.

In utah he dose not have a leagle right to see child untill court order states he dose. Over 30 different lawyers have stated that fact.

Answer 1

if he is only doing it because he has to then no he has no right especially since he abandoned the child. if he is a negative in the childs life than definitely NO but if he has changed his ways and is attempting to step up and be a parent then that is great...as long as it doesnt confuse the child ( is the child old enough to understand that this man is his father.) and how does the man who is raising the child feel cause a father is just a sperm donor and a dad is there always. i give your man a pat on the back for taking care of your child like it was his own. alot of men wouldnt do that. all in all do whatever is in the childs best interest no matter what your feelings towards the deadbeat are.

Answer 2

I say it is his right to see his child and support and visitation are seperate. He should not, however, be able to jump right back in and resume where he left off. They need to see how comfortable the child is with him and ease the child into a schedule gradually, like a few hour visitation at a time (supervised) and take it from there based on what the child needs. That is unless he tries to get a court order and then you will need a lawyer who will make sure it is in the best interest of the child.

Answer 3

Actually he DOES have a legal right if he is the biological father. But that right doesn't supercede the maternal custody. The other man may be raising that child but that doesn't take away the biological father's parental rights. Until the bio father relinquishes all parental rights it doesn't matter who has been raising the child, he STILL has the right to see his child whether he is paid up in support or not. Child support is not payment for visitation. Fact is that this bio father CHOSE not to see his child for years...now he has CHOSEN to do so.

Answer 4

My ex' s didnt really abandon my daughters, they just kinda dropped out of there lives several times, while they were younger. My ex would go a year or so,and we would hear nothing, my daughter remembers me begging him on the phone to come see her, OH MY...she remembers it all, she remembers his wife telling him to cut his losses...So Sad...she is not a lose, she is his daughter, But anyway, none of that matters anymore.
I was always so nice, that when my ex's would disappear for awhile, I would let them back in and tell them the door is always open...I tried everything as a mother to keep my daughters close to there dads. Most of all, my daughters Know that, and that is all that matters..
Kids do know, which parent tries and which one doesnt..
My husband has been in my 2 daughters lives for 11 years, and he has been there dad, he hasnt tried to take there real dads place, he is sooo good about building there dads up to them, and telling the girls how much there dads love them, even when they dont hear from them and dont come around..I married a good man.
Alot of men, try to see the child because they have to pay child support and if that is the only reason,it is very sad...they should see the children because they want to.
Kids lives are not a game...Just always lift up the other parent, as hard as it may be, and encourage the other parent to be involved...It doesnt make the stepdad any less of a dad..
The children grow up, and trust me, they know who tried and who didnt.
Hope it all works out for you..

Answer 5

Child support and visitation are nor tied together. If you really think the visits are hurting the child, go back to family court and have them regulated or stopped. But if it is just a matter of you not liking the visits, reexamine your motives. Put the child's interests above your own. Does the child benefit from the visits at all.?.. Yes or no?,,,,that is really all that matters.

Answer 6

He is as responsible for the creation of your baby just as much as you are. Your would not want somebody to keep you away from your child...do you know how much that would hurt you?, so why do that to him. If he WANTS to be a part of his childs life, then it is of no right for you to stop that. Unless he has done something to harm the child, there is no reason for him to be with the child.

Answer 7

i would keep my child safe and keep his well being first in my mind.
if the bio father does take it to court, then the psychologist could testify on your behalf.
i would not allow him unsupervised visitation without a court order and no matter what he says---he can't make you even give him that much.

Answer 8

Child Support and visitation are two seperate issues. He is and will always be the biological father and you shouldnt interfere with that relationship unless it harms your child. Also be careful not to drag your own feelings into their own relationship.

Answer 9

go to family court, let them deal with him,...


you can refuse visits till then....


good luck be careful

Answer 10

do what you think is best. on one can tell you what is best for your child . you have to make that decision for your self and hope it is the best decision.
good luck !!!!