is this normal?

Question

I got marry one year ago , he is my first, and i love him a lot, and he is so good but when we make love I don't really feel anything, or get excited or come, but when we do other things I get horn and I come, so is this normal because when I hear story , they say sex is amazing, so ?????????????????????????

Answer 1

Everyones different. If your man isnt pleasing you in bed, you need to tell him. SHOW him what you want done to help you climax. Dont ever expect he knows what hes doing.

Answer 2

Most women don't have an orgasm from intercourse alone. Knowing that you can, with the right stimulation, means that all is well, and yes, you're quite normal.

So continue to do those "other things" and know that it takes us a lot longer to warm up, get going and get off than it does a man. So much depends upon what is going on in our heads.

If it's important to you to get off while he's inside you, try being on top and one of you using your hand to do the job at the same time. This works with other positions as well. And don't be afraid to "help yourself" honey. Most men do not mind this a bit and in fact he may very much enjoy watching you do it.

Answer 3

You shouldn't come from having sex. You should come from making love. AND, 85% of women don't even have orgasims while having sex. It's through other things. So yes, your situation is normal, and you must really love him if you get "excited" while you don't have sex. Stay with him...don't let a good thing pass you by.

Answer 4

sounds like he is very skilled if he can find other ways to make you happy even though you aren't "making love" - I assume you mean intercourse? There are a lot of ways to make love - I think it's the feeling associated with it more than the actual act or acts, honestly. So if you are not able to by having intercourse, but he makes you satisfied in other ways, you are still making love and FEEL BLESSED that he makes such a good effort - your husband obviously loves you.

Answer 5

Normal isn't the standard I'd suggest you use to judge your sex life--or your marriage or anything else for that matter. Are you satisfied and content and happy? If you, keep doing what you are doing. If there are dissatisfactions, talk with your husband and see if the two of you can figure out a way to "adjust" and "tweak" or "change" things so you are satisfied, content, and happy.
You SOUND perfectly delightful to me.

Answer 6

Sex is amazing but sometimes for a female it sucks. Females have a hard time getting theirs during actual penetration because of the location of the clitoris. sometimes it helps if you kind of play with it while he's penetrating. That's why you come during other things because your clitoris is getting attention. You are so normal.

Answer 7

A lot of times women don't come during the intercourse...I always get my wife off during foreplay, and then I try again after I finished filling her with my seed.

Answer 8

You are not normal and in need of therapy . . . get help while your still young enough to benefit from it.

THe best thing you can do is prepare wonderful meals, clean the house and shop at Victoria's Secret for things that will please your man. Now get busy.

Answer 9

Most women do not experience orgasms from penetration alone. Most women need clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm. You should speak to your husband about this and consider exploring adult toys and/or books to explore other ways of reaching your goal. Good luck and remember 'practice makes perfect'.

Answer 10

See a Doctor & take a course in grammar.