With all the child abuse that is going on in this country these days, i think new parents should have to ans. the same questions as people have to ans. when they try to adopt. Before you are allowed to take that adopted baby home you must prove you will be able to care for it. Why not find out if the birth parent will be able to take care of the child, if it seems the parent will have great diffeculty in taking care of the child-drugs,violence,jobless,no Dad to help etc. I think this child should be put on a- Chidrens Watch List. To make sure they don't wind up like Nixmary Brown, a beautiful little girl who was beaten and tortured to death by Parents who should have never been able to take her home. Somebody has to care about these kids.
2007-01-27 05:03:25 · 8 answers · asked by truth teller 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i dont see any thing wrong with them asking that but how many crazy parents do you think are going to admit that they are going to torture and murder thier child?
2007-01-27 05:42:50 · answer #1 · answered by Thumbs down me now 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All new parents are overwhelmed, lost and a bit frightened. Asking the hopsital to do that would put all first-born children and almost all others on the watch list. Hospitals make you watch videos and nurses watch you do stuff like diapering and feeding to make sure you know how to do it but they can't possibly see the future. A lot of parents are really happy and excited and wonderful with newborns and then lose it when things get tougher in the toddler years. Hospital staff are mandated reporters and are required to report anything that hurts or is unhealty for the child. Many times, families ask for help and for those who are jobless etc, they are usually working with Family Services already. If you were to actually ask a woman who has just had a baby how they are going to be able to care for a baby, you will give voice to their darkest fear and push a lot of women who would have been okay into postpartum depression. No one can answer that question satisfactorily rich people make bad parents sometimes, poor people make wonderful parents sometimes, there is no way to know. We are all just trying to make the best life we can. My husband and I lost our jobs on the same day exactly one month before our first son was born, we had nothing, everything fell apart. We made it through and our son thrived but we didn't know how we were going to take care of him, we didn't know if we could be good parents. No one ever really does. Parenting is making it up as you go along, and trying really hard to teach them to be good adults.
2007-01-27 13:20:13 · answer #2 · answered by Huggles-the-wise 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was 18 when I got pregnant and 19 when I went into preterm labor and I was hospitalized a few times. During my first hospital stay, someone from the hospital's social services department (I guess that's what it was called) came and asked me questions like was I with the baby's father (we got married two months prior), if either one of us do drugs or drink, if we had a home and what kind of job my husband had. I don't think it was their business to ask how much money he made, just to note that at least one of us was working. I don't know if they ask all mothers that or if it was just the younger ones. While I didn't have anything to hide, I think it was an invasion of privacy and I don't believe that having the father in the situation or whether or not the mother has a job is reason to believe that abuse will occur.
2007-01-27 15:23:33 · answer #3 · answered by zuckie44 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No because it is not the job of nurses and doctors to do social work. There is not enough money to have a social worker examine every new mother. Plus society assumes we are all quality parents until someone proves they arent. It is innocent until proven guilty in our society. Would you want someone grilling YOU if you went to the hospital to have a baby? No you wouldnt because they have no right to assume you wouldnt be a good parent.
2007-01-27 13:08:30 · answer #4 · answered by Educated 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It is the job of the adoption agency to screen the parents.
2007-01-27 13:23:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you gonna fund this endeavor. this would be very costly and time consuming the doctors and nurses arent there to do social work, in the case of drugs and alcohol those people are watched
2007-01-27 13:19:27 · answer #6 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That would cost too much money for the state to do. (thats just the truth)
2007-01-27 13:10:11 · answer #7 · answered by mdoud01 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes...
2007-01-27 13:10:25 · answer #8 · answered by Akon_luva_13 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋