I know it is wrong to be in love with a married woman but she is incredible and the man she is currently with does not allow her to do anything and makes her feel worthless any suggestions on what i should and should not do
2007-01-27 04:18:21 · 15 answers · asked by brian C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stay away from married women...
2007-01-27 04:20:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is not a frightened baby- he is manipulative and you have every right to move on. I is not your problem he is an emotional wreck, that is his issue and he needs to work on it before he is a husband to anyone. Do not forget the abuse- forgive yes, forget no, he is only so far away from the old behavior- when he stops getting what he wants he will be back at again. I am not going to look down on you for a moment- I have been in your shoes. My ex husband was a drug addict and had me chasing him all over town trying to save him from himself because he was an emotional wreck. He is also very self centered though manipulative at times to convince me otherwise. He would pull me close with one arm and push me away with the other and convince me that it was my fault because I was smothering him. He drove me literally crazy and drained me of all emotions- I was a pathetic mess. He would convince me not to leave because he had been hurt so badly in the past by woman leaving him (well I wonder why!? They were just quicker and smarter than me to get out of there) He verbally abused me (told me to eat in another room because he didn't like the way I sounded when I chewed my food). Left for a week no money, no diapers & food and I wasn't allowed to work or drive. Then he would come home messed up with a new jeep or stereo, try to strangle me for making him the wrong kind of sandwich. You know we love them but at a certain point we have to realize that no matter how horrible their child hoods were that is there journey and their responsibility to confront and move on from. At a certain point you have to protect yourself. He won't grow up with you coddling and protecting him from his past. Get out and start living and let him do the same. You will suffocate there I promise. I left my husband 6 yrs ago- and I am the happiest healthiest woman alive & I married my soul mate who treats me like a queen. Your turn girl.
2016-05-24 05:35:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get out of this relationship. You shouldn't say anything about her husband. You should not have gotten involved in the first place. MOVE ON. Find a single woman.
2007-01-27 06:36:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over her and move on. She knows she is being abused and theres nothing you can do to get her to want to leave him. I have a friend who is in a mentally abusive marriage and has been for over 20 years. At some point you have to say you get what you deserve.
2007-01-27 04:24:05 · answer #4 · answered by CctbOh 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately u can't change her, often times if we are abused we often think we deserve it, if it has been going on awhile. she has a low self worth, therapy would help her regain her self worth, than she would be able to see what he is doing is wrong. don't get caught up in it, no matter how much u care and want to help her, as her husband could come after u and do something to u. as long as she refuses to see what the husband is, u can't change things.
2007-01-27 04:26:12 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She already knows hes abusing her. She will stay until she wakes one am and realizes she no longer has ANY feelings for him(including hateful feelings). Then and only then will she successfully leave him.
2007-01-27 04:44:05 · answer #6 · answered by jmhwme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u cant really tell her but i bet she is aware fo what he does to her and wont say it...she will just have to face it and leave him or stay with him and put up with it...tell her to sart treating him and saying the stuff he says to her to him and i bet he will stop ((in time))) saying mean stuff to her... been there done that trust me and if he dont stop sart taken her out and meeting other ppl and she will see ther is better outt there. but dont think it will happne over night. plus maybe she is dependent on him and she will have to learn to be dependent on her self frist
2007-01-27 04:24:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget her. Find a woman who comes to you with no emotional baggage,you will never find any complete happiness with her. Better heartbreak now, than misery later.
2007-01-27 04:32:28 · answer #8 · answered by bernice l 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You fishing for good reasons to do the wrong thing, by any chance? Count me out.
2007-01-27 04:22:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you just need to sit down and talk to her and tell her how you feel and show her that there is a way out. she probably feels trapped and like theres no way out.
2007-01-27 04:24:02 · answer #10 · answered by angeleyessly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that it is not right for her to stay with a guy that is just not treating her right. but she is a grown adult so i would let her make her dision. you can't to expect her just to be with you. she has a husband. but if you love her so much tell her that it doesn't seem right that she is with him. JUST TELL HER YOU LOVE HER WITH ALL YOUR HEART!!!!
2007-01-27 05:07:37 · answer #11 · answered by tara b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋