Is she over reacting??

Question

My mom came home early and saw me watching tv with my hand on my g/f's stomach. We are both 16. Is my mom over reacting by getting mad??
We have been together for two years. Doesn't she trust me when she isn't home??
Parents, How would you react??
Does the fact that we were lying on my bed not help??

Answer 1

i think shes just kinda scared i do belive she was over reacting but well if u "did it" she was not! ok well just say your sorry an explain to her its not what it looks like

Answer 2

No, your mom isn't over reacting. I would have grounded you for 2 weeks, and said your Girlfriend wasn't allowed in your bedroom period.

The fact that you were both lying on your bed has a lot to do with it. No one home, you two on your bed with your hand on her stomach, just think of everything that was going through your mother's head.

Think of your parents as much as you think of yourself, and always ask yourself, "what would mom think of this" before you do anything. If you show respect for her, she will in turn show respect for you and she will start to have more trust in you. Obviously you have already given her reason not to trust you when she isn't home at some other time, so it is up to you to gain her trust back.

Answer 3

I'm a parent of 5 children. Ages 4 thru 19, are you kidding? What were you thinking taking her to your bedroom? cuddling on the bed? This means your laying down? Looks very teen pregnancy to me...but hey, your not my kid, what you do doesn't affect me at all. I will say this, my oldest got to do a lot & I trusted him. I found out he was actually guilty of having "cake" when he told me that he wasn't. He came clean his junior year with me. He is now in the Air Force and doing fantastic! NO g/f, he broke up with her after 2.5 years, she cheated on him. My point, even if your lying u could still take the mature way of it all and be acting responsibly as to NOT have any teen pg. But it's your parents home...their rules. They are only looking out for your best interest. At least act responsibly...I was not stupid, I could tell my son and his g/f were "close", touching a lot is a HUGE clue! We parents aren't as dumb as we may pretend to be. But we let you kids set the time your ready to "come clean" and talk about it maturely and responsibly. I did NOT blow up or over react when my son "came clean". We had a wonderful discusion...all 3 minutes of it. lol She was on the pill, they also used con*oms. And, I believed in him, that he would do what was right for their future. Like I said, he's doing GREAT! I'm VERY proud. Make your parents proud...do what you know is RIGHT. Your both 16? That is a more mature than say, 14 or 15. Take care of you & your g/f.

Answer 4

I am not going to pound you, I say this sencere. You do not need to be laying in the bed with your girlfriend. For you and her that is a temptation that should be avoided. You are only human.

Now, did your mom go psycho on you and start hitting you. That would have been over reaction, but if she spoke to you told you to stop or even yelled at you, I do not think that is over reaction. You should not even have to ask about the hand on the stomach, there are two other parts very close buy. Temptation could have lead you further.

Answer 5

I'm not a parent, but the same thing happened to my older sister and her boyfriend. My mom walked in on them lying together on the bed and watching a movie. She got mad at my sister, but in the end they had a talk and straightened things out. Your mom may be overreatcing a tiny bit, but that depends on your history with your girlfriend. Has she seen you having any sort of sexual contact with her before? Even if she has no apparent reason to suspect that you're having a sexual relation with your girlfriend, she's probably just worried. It's often hard for parents to accept that their children are growing up. You should probably talk to her and reassure her that nothing is going on, and that although you're growing up, you're not going to make any serious decisions in your relationship without consulting her first.

Answer 6

No, she has every right to be mad. But you've also got to realize that she just has you're best interests in mind, and she probably hasn't seen you two in such a situation that often. She should come around once she gets used to the fact that you are both reaching the age at which such behavior is acceptable. And no, the fact that you were on your bed does not help this situation

Answer 7

I would say u have to earn trust so have you done anything she would be worried about. Also for mom's its hard to let go and see her children growing up. I think that you should avoid lying together on the bed especially in front of your mom. It didnt help the situation. You are growing up though so she will have to adjust though its not going to be easy on her. So you both need to be patient and understanding in this. Good luck. I would have spoken to both of you on my expectations in "my" home and that the respect needs to be there. I would have also brought up pregnancy and how we want to avoid that. Then i would have been ok. if we reached an understanding

Answer 8

I am a father of one son, in my opinion a 16 year old person raised properly should be able to make thier own relationship decisions, however, you are in your mothers home, and it is also my opinion that you should respect her wishes, it is not that she doesn't trust you. I think it is a show of responsibility and maturity if you keep all things with your girlfriend on the up and up while in your home. Out on the town etc, and when you get your own appartment / house, what you do is your business.

my 2 cents

Answer 9

Your mom needs to take a chill-pill. What would she do if she came home and saw your balls bouncing off your girlfriend's chin?
Have a talk with your parents. Tell them you're in love. Tell them that, when you and your beloved decide to play hide the salomi, you will be careful & use protection. It's not like you're 12. 16 is the average age to start ******'. Explain to your mom that you'll always be her little boy, it's just that you're 16, and her little boy needs to dip his finger in the honeypot!

Answer 10

Young buck....be careful man..you may believe that this girl is the one but what about her getting pregnant?

Your mom is probably more worried about that anything else, but just touching her sure wont get her pregnant...if that is all you were up to...I mean on the bed, no one at home, hand on her belly.....sounds like a good time good times lead to unexpected babies and babies aren't any fun when you are 16..believe it!

Answer 11

If you have not given her any reason to worry about your behavior, if you have not abused her trust, then (as a parent myself) I would say that it sounds like she probably over reacted if she got really mad or punished you. If you have not been trustworthy in the past, then perhaps you can't blame her, even if nothing was going on this time.