confusion about orientation?

Question

i'm more attracted to the same-sex (fantasy-desire-wise). But i've never actually experimented with the same-sex. i'm turning 18 later this year. is it just that phase everyone goes thru or am i definitely bi? i can look at the same sex and get turned on, but not at the opposite sex.

Answer 1

If the opposite sex does not turn you on, you are not bi, you are homosexual. The sooner you face it, the happier you will be.

Answer 2

I can understand your confused, but before I give more of an answer just understand that you are who you are and it doesn't matter what sexuality you are.

Okay, no onto the answer:
You're definately bi-curious at the very least. Some people I know would prefer to say that they're bisexual rather than that they're full-out gay because that doesn't limit you in either way. It seems that you're gay if you don't get turned on by the opposite sex, but it might be easier to tell people that you're a bit confused and for now you think you're bisexual. If by about 21 you still feel the same way, then your sexuality is usually deadset by then. I'm not saying that it's cast in stone, but after the hormonal inbalance of the adolescent years you should be able to make a sober decision.

Good luck finding you!
MaybeLater_x

Answer 3

The Formula For Producing A Homosexual
This formula can be illustrated in this way:


A Predisposition
Toward Homosexuality

Plus

That First
Homosexual Experience

Multiplied By

Pleasurable and Positive
Homosexual Thoughts

To Which Is Added

More Homosexual
Experiences

Multiplied By

More Pleasurable
Thoughts

---------------------------

A Homosexual
When one already has a "predisposition" towards homosexuality, exposure to homosexual experiences and pleasurably reflecting upon them can create a powerful attraction difficult to overcome. So powerful can these experiences and reflections be that one not even need to have developed a "predisposition" to be drawn into this sort of behavior.

Answer 4

I would say your more gay than bi if you get turned on by just looking at the men. When and if you first encounter your same sex experience you might really figure out weather you are gay or straight, but if you are not turned on by women you may not enjoy the sex with her. Good luck in what ever way you turn to and hope that you are happy in your choice.

Answer 5

That's a very good question; and any answer you get will be controversial.

In my opinion and belief (other's may well disagree), it is indeed a phase that everyone goes through (though many will decline to admit it). Your ultimate path will depend on your true proclivities (whatever they turn out to be), and your strength of will and self-determination. Those who lack the will to be themselves will go through life as heterosexual regardless of their actual orientation (though I hasten to point out that most heterosexuals are, in fact, heterosexually oriented.)

I personally subscribe to the theory that, in the absence of societal pressures, biological imperative operates to absolutely require that enough people be heterosexual to ensure the preservation of the species. (Homosexuality does not propagate the species and so would not be reinforced under Darwin's "Survival of the Fittest" theories). Accordingly, one would expect to see more heterosexuals, biologically speaking, than homosexuals. Does that mean homosexuality is "un-natural" or "wrong"? No; merely different.

Society, however, has its own imperatives, which operate to suppress that which is different than the "norm". You can have long debates over societal issues, but that's beyond the scope of your question I think.

So there it is, all my opinion and belief. However, if anybody claims to have a concrete absolute answer, I would tend to scoff.

If you are 18 and are still in this "phase", then you are either a heterosexual late-bloomer, or (more likely in my opinion) you are more homosexual than not. What you choose to do about that is up to you.

(For the record, I am homosexual, but refused to acknowledge the fact until I was 23. My "phase" lasted a very long time.)

Answer 6

You are GAY. You are not going through some "phase." You are not confused and you aren't bi-curious. "Bi-curious" is when you live a heterosexual life, but are curious about the same sex. You didn't say you're having heterosexual involvement, so you can't be bi-curious. I have been a lesbian for all 36 years of my life and it has always been the same way for me from when I was younger! So don't wait - get out there and have a good, hot, SAFE gay sexual experience!! GO NOW!!!

PS - Congratulations and WELCOME aboard! I think you'll be very happy here!

Answer 7

Forget about "orientation." You have a real problem, and as long as you call it "orientation," nothing will ever change.

"Sexual Orientation"
"•A phrase that has come up recently in this earth is "sexual orientation." This is a phrase made up by homosexuals to try to make themselves look less filthy than they really are. The purpose of the phrase is to take the spotlight from what these perverts do, and put it on the notion that they are just poor, mistreated people..."

Answer 8

If only the same sex turns you on, you're not bi. You're gay.

Answer 9

if you get turned on by your same gender then you're gay and not bi; bi is when you are interested in both genders.

Answer 10

confusion ?
first to clear confusion one must be honost with them self.

No one can tell you....Only you can tell yourself

heterosexuals will say it is wrong
Homosexuals will tell you there is nothing wrong

What does that little voice inside YOU say?
do it?
or don't do it?
It is wrong?
or it is right?

Listen to no one.
one way or another.
If you choose not to do it..... homosexuals will say your little voice is what you have learned and it is wrong and society has taught you that.

But if the voice tells you choose to do it they will say your little voice knows the truth and what is right.

This proves to not listen to no one.
go in silence and ask God what you should be or do