well when i had my first daughter, i had read a lot about mother child bonding. one of these things included taking a bath/shower with your child so that the child could bond with you and know your touch a little more than just holding him/her during feedings. now, my ex mother in law, was totally against that! but, i was raised to "bond" with my child in this sort of way. and i am about to have #2 and would love to do this again with my little boy. what is your opinion on the mother-child bonding? and what can be done to prevent my mother in law NOW to not care what i do with the bonding sessions and support me in a way that my husband can't considering he is in iraq?
2007-01-27 03:35:48 · 17 answers · asked by Mandie 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I'm sorry mah, but when a child is born, is any type of bonding abuse in your opinion?? its not like i'm sexually abusing my child. i'm simply bonding with him. what a disturbed person!
2007-01-27 04:11:43 · update #1
dear when me and my wife had are first child we did same when she was in shower the baby showered with her and when i had a chance not at work or other places i did the same i would ignore the mother in law it is good way for the baby to know you and to know your heartbeat touch etc good luck
2007-01-27 03:40:28 · answer #1 · answered by john t 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
My son was born almost 3 months early and since he had been on a feeding tube I could never get him to latch on I took baths with him once in a while until he was about 10 months old...and then he started grabbing at things....lol. It was a great bonding experience. He is 2 1/2 now and a complete mama's boy.
MAH...were you abused as a child? Bathing with your child is NOT abuse. Maybe that's what your parents did to you, but not all parents are disgusting like that.
2007-01-27 11:49:29 · answer #2 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all why do u even tell her things like that.How u raise your children should be only u and your husbands business. You have heard the old saying when there are to many cooks in the kitchen u come up with a mess. Well that goes with parenting.I have one son that I took showers with until he was 4. It was easier to do.As for this bonding thing.Don't over think this.Just be a parent and love them.If u keep thinking u have to bond u are going to over do it.It will come no matter what.With or without showers.I have a 18 yr old son that works all day where I work and goes to school at night.Never once did I think I had to bond with my child and we are as close as two people can get.I wish u all the luck in raiseing your children.
2007-01-27 11:52:45 · answer #3 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, your mother in law need not know everything! I bond with my daughter this way. It is so much fun, and when she was very small it was a great way to make her feel secure. Now she is getting too big, and it is a little sad that we can't fit in the tub together anymore. Maybe when she starts walking we will shower together, as it saves lodes of time!
Definitely bathe with her. If this is a different mother in law, maybe she doesn't feel the same?
good luck and happy bathing:)
2007-01-27 11:49:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Its your child, if you feel that your bonding time is by taking a nice bath with your child, then thats totally your decission and she should respect that. I totally agree with you, I take baths with my little girl off and on, and so does my husband, shes 4 months and I totally feel that we are bonding with her, and whether it works or not, its a nice special time with them, and thats what counts. Keep doing your own bonding thing and ask your mother in law to respect your way of raising your child.
2007-01-27 11:41:52 · answer #5 · answered by Proud Mother 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I remember those times with my little ones, they're teenagers now, and there is nothing like it! BOND, BOND, BOND!!! There is no need to tell your mother-in-law what you do. Enlist the support of an understanding friend. Good luck!
2007-01-27 11:44:53 · answer #6 · answered by reflex 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
first I would tell dear old mother in law, that the child is yours and while you appreciate her opinion, the final decision is yours and your husbands, period.
I loved showering and bathing with my babies, it was a great way to bond and get both of our baths or showers done at the same time!
2007-01-27 11:41:40 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
OH good ole mother in laws, they always have to voice their opinions as much as you probably don't want to hear them. There is nothing wrong with bonding with your baby however you feel comfortable with. I don't see anything wron with that.
2007-01-27 13:23:58 · answer #8 · answered by jennifer m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just explain it to her tell her that for one batheing with the baby saves time and energy pluss its a good time to bond if she doesnt understand find suport else where
2007-01-27 11:45:02 · answer #9 · answered by mommyofanangel06 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 children and we never did it. But, I don't see anything wrong about that.
Follow your motherhood instincts, and try to find a way to ask your husband.
2007-01-27 12:05:07 · answer #10 · answered by drorba1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋