does it hurt to have a baby?

Question

my best friend wants to know because she is due in 3 days i said i knew but i dont

Answer 1

It doesn't tickle.

Answer 2

Yes, it does hurt to have a baby. There is the labor and contractions that feel like really intense cramps. Then there is the delivery of the baby. You are pushing something the size of a watermelon out the of something the size of a lemon lol. Yeah, it hurts. It hurts even worse for those brave women (I was not one of them) who deliver without drugs. Get an epidural. That is my best advice for your friend. They are wonderful.

Answer 3

The worst pain you will ever feel,that is if you have a natural birth. I have had 3. But I can tell you that as soon as your baby is born,all the worst pain fades away and then when the baby is laying in ur arms..you dont even remember the pain at all(lol until later when someone asks you and you remember it)

Answer 4

Yes!! unless you have an epidural. What no one talks much about is how bad you hurt AFTER having the baby. I had an epidural, and giving birth was no big deal. but cramps afterward, as well as stitches... that was painful. but they have good medicine that should take care of that too. good luck to your friend!

Answer 5

hurts more for some depending on size and orientation of baby, painkiller use, size of hips/woman, pain tolerance etc ...

my sister said having a baby wasn't even close to the pain she felt with a bad sunburn

Answer 6

Yah..my mom said that it hurts a lot...especially if the baby is a really huge and healthy one. But its an experience, and its natural...but that's the price to pay for eating that apple pie in the garden of eden huh...

Answer 7

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Not always. Please don't listen to horror stories needlessly.

It's different for everyone. My mother had a short labor, only about 6 hours. Mine was shorter, and I don't even call it labor in my case.

I woke up at 8 AM and felt a fluttering in my lower abdomen. I had a "fluttering" every five minutes for fifteen minutes (total four times). I called the doctor at 8:15 and he said "I told you what labor is like" and we got off the phone.

Then it was every two minutes for about 45 mnutes, so I called him again at 9 AM and he told me to go to the hospital. I felt a little crampy and some pressure while in the car on the way to the hospital. I think I arrived around 9:30 AM.

The nurse examined me and asked if this was my first baby, and I said yes. Then she asked if it was my first pregnancy and I said yes again.

She got on the phone, and all I heard her say was, "Yes, doctor, right now."

The doctor, who didn't live close at all, got there in fifteen minutes. I'm not exadtly sure of the time then, because a lot was going on, but he did arrive in about 15 minutes, I'm sure of that.

Then I got "prepped". I don't know what they do now, but back then they shaved the area and gave you an enema. Okay, I felt crampy in the bathroom. That wasn't fun, but it didn't last long.

It was nearing 11 AM, and my doctor said, "If you keep going like this, you'll have your baby around 12:00. So I told him, "Don't worry, you'll be home for the Superbowl." Yes, my daughter was born on a Superbowl Sunday!

Anyway, I remember when they said, "Okay, let's go." My daughter was born at 11:15 AM. Total time 1 hour 15 minutes.

Other than feeling a little crampy in the car, and more pressure and more crampy because of the enema, I really had no other pain. I only felt pressure.

AFTER the baby is born, there are "afterpains" because the body is trying to get rid of the placenta. While you're in recovery, the nurses come in and massage the abdomen to help the placenta leave the body. That wasn't fun, but again, it didn't last long. You just keep thinking about the wonderful little bundle you just gave birth to!

I hate to hear horror stories of births. It CAN happen that way, but it can also be an almost painfree experience. You never know how it will be for you, but others are right, you forget all about that unless somebody brings it up and want you to talk about it.

Tell her to relax and enjoy the experience.

For my son, we moved closer to a hospital. Again, no labor pains, and I did Lamaze with natural childbirth. No drugs. No pain either. He was born in 2 hours 20 minutes. It's really funny because my husband and I were going to play cards until it was time, but we only had time for two hands. The monitrice (like a midwife who takes care of you until it's time for the doctor to come in for the actual delivery) said, "When you feel rectal pressure, you can push." I said, "Oh, I've BEEN feeling that!"

I pushed the next time I felt pressure, and she said "HOLD IT!" So I started huffing and puffing so the baby wouldn't come out while she called the doctor. When he came in, he sat down in front of me and said to push on the next contraction. I asked if he was gonna stand up. He said, "Don't worry, I'll be there to catch the baby." That didn't relieve my worries.

So next time I felt pressure, I told him I was ready to push, and I did. Then I had to start huffing really fast because I felt the baby coming out and man, you've never seen a doctor stand up so fast in your life!

He told me to push again, then I had to pause after the head clears so they can make sure nothing is wrapped around the neck, then I gave one more little push and out came my son. The doctor said, "Don't forget to look" just in time for me to take a quick glance in the mirror before I gave that last push.

It was great! The only thing I felt this time was when I woke up at 4:40 AM and felt a little gassy. I told my husband I might be in labor. It was so light, but I figured why take chances. Good think we went to the hospital right away! He was 8 days early, but the second one is usually faster than the first.

So there you go. 1 hr. 15 minutes, and 2 hours 20 minutes.

Wish your friend luck from me, please!

ADDED: Both of my children were born "face up" which is supposed to give you a lot of back pain and be a "hard labor", only they forgot to tell me that. Everybody said I was born to have babies. Maybe your friend was, too. You just never know.

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Answer 8

yes it hurts but you forget all about it when the baby is born. If it was that bad people wouldn't have multiple children.

Answer 9

yes it hurts but wants you hold that bundle of joy in your hand it makes the pain all worth it. All the best to her.

Answer 10

yes it does hurt but you soon forget about the pain or no 1 whould have other babys she will be ok

Answer 11

of course it hurts, but from experience, as long as you have ssomeone with you to tell you to breath and keep you calm, things go smoother, and also, as soon as its over, you are holding this beautiful baby and the pain seems to just disappear.
p.s: i though labour was going to be much worse that it actually was, so maybe that helps also