He jokes around with his friends like he is and thats fine with me but he takes it too far. Like wrapping his leg around a guy in a sexual position, He smacks their butts and talks like he's making fun of gay guys [it's funny but its all the time, Everyday] and idk it just seems like he takes it too far. A couple months back someone said something to me joking around saying he is and I started to really think about it and everything he does makes it seem like he is... soo I asked him about it and he said that he wasn't and that it hurt that I thought that about him.. and I believe him that he isn't. But he could have lied and said he wasn't because he's afriad of my reaction or afriad of being judged. So I think there's still a possibility he is. But I'm not sure. It wouldn't bother me if he was but the fact that he's always touching them and stuff really bothers me, if he is.
2007-01-27 03:29:45 · 12 answers · asked by deleted 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well with out knowing your BF, it would be hard to make that call.
I know plenty of guys who goof around and make rude sexual comments and even do some rather bizarre things to one another that would make you question their sexuality, but they all are just normal straight guys.
I have a lot of straight and gay friends, and after a while you start to realize there is no real 100% guaranteed sign to say "yes I am gay" or "no I am not" short of them coming out and saying if they are or not.
I knew a guy, he had the most feminine voice I had ever seen in a man, he minced (limp wrist action) and he was in to art and music. Dude was 100% straight!
An very good friend of mine, v. athletic, strong, fast, a "man's man", and yet he has had more boyfriends in one year than i have teeth in my head.
You cant judge whether he is gay, bi or straight by things like that, no matter what anyone tells you.
If he is, he has to come to terms with it, you can't force him in to realizing it or coming to grips with it.
Hell he could very well be, but if he chooses to ignore those feelings then that's his choice and it is a very bad idea to push him on it.
If he is not, then you might drive him away because he will feel you don't trust him.
My recommendation, accept it, one way or the other. don't judge, don't force the issue. let him either come to terms with it or not.
Because at the end of the day it is his life, and he needs to be responsible for it.
Best of Luck
2007-01-27 03:51:56 · answer #1 · answered by Stone K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be glad and relieved that he told you this now, and not when you are married and find him boinking the neighbor. This is also a sign that he truly loves you and trusts you to share such an intimate detail. You need to take some time and think about how this makes you feel and how it impacts your relationship. Is this something you both can work with? Becoming possessive will just make him regret his decision to tell you and probably end the relationship, he won't tell the next girl for fear of the same outcome and you have ruined his new relationship before its begun. How you treat this is very delicate. If you can't work past this then you need to break up, odds are you'll still be friends but its an possible outcome. A better one would be to find ways to include you in his sexual fantasies, either with toys or other kinds of play. That way he can explore his sexuality, with you. This could be something that brings you closer together or tears you apart. And that is decidedly up to you.
2016-05-24 05:19:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. Professional football players smack each other on the butt after every good play. Brett Favre, probably the toughest quarterback in the history of football, does this very often; he even smacks the refs on the butt after a good call. There are pictures of him with both of his legs wrapped around another football players face after a win. Your boyfriend just sounds like he is comfortable with his sexuality. I have plenty of friends who act the same way. However, if it bothers you, you should tell him and have a conversation and explain your fears in an adult manner.
2007-01-27 03:48:35 · answer #3 · answered by UIhawk eye 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the real thing to realize here is that no one is completley 100% hetero or homosexual, that has been proven. If it bothers you that he might have more of a homosexual streak then you do then thats not his problem. Just keep in mind that he is with you and if he is with you then hes with you for a reason. As long as your sex life is decent and you guys are communicating and have feelings for eachother, it dosen't really matter if he is bi. We are all bi on some level just some people are more insecure about it then others. He is comfortable and confident in his own flesh and that is a blessing.
2007-01-27 07:40:12 · answer #4 · answered by im2cool4ahotdog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is would you quit dating him? maybe that is something that ran thru his mind when you asked him, do you spend enough time with him that he doesn't have time to have sex with a guy?. see there are a lot of things to take into consideration, the guys and girls would make fun of him if they found out, he just hasn't found himself yet ,maybe, so as long as he told you he isn't then maybe he isn't . He may just be playing around with his friends, some guys do that and are not gay or bi. so I would believe him till he actually decides one way or the other.
2007-01-27 03:46:40 · answer #5 · answered by jumpinjackdw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably is. And this question right here proves that it would bother you. You say it wouldn't, but it obviously already does.
If someone in the relationship is bi you have to set boundaries that both parties are okay with. If you're not okay with him flirting with guys you need to tell him that. He would have to admit that he's bi first, of course. But I don't think he's going to do that until you calm down about it.
My boyfriend and I are both bi. He flirts with guys. I flirt with girls. We both talk about how sexy this person or that person is. But we both know the rules. He can date guys, and I can date girls, but nothing else. You have to define what cheating is in your relationship.
First, though, you need to admit that this behavior bothers you. Then you need to figure out why. Are you worried that he's cheating on you? Do you just not like him flirting with someone else, guy or girl? Or does the thought of him being bi just bug you?
2007-01-27 04:14:46 · answer #6 · answered by Wiccan~Momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say it wouldn't bother you if he was bi, but then you say it does bother you to see him doing things that a bi man would do (touching and flirting). I think he's bi just like you do. And you need to move on because you aren't comfortable with someone who is bi and can't keep his hands to himself or be honest with you about himself (or honest with himself, for that matter).
2007-01-27 04:20:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah he's not bi. every guy acts like that. my friend jon and my friend striska act that way all the time its pretty damn funny i think. he's just a normal striaght immature guy. i would say he's not bi. but if he goes far enough to touch another guys penis....then i'd look out.
2007-01-27 05:13:01 · answer #8 · answered by hottie555 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer to your question!! There is not a straight man on the face of this earth who would behave as you've described. If it would not bother you if he is bi, why does his behavior bother you? Think about it.
2007-01-27 03:46:33 · answer #9 · answered by candace b 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It sounds like he's just comfortable with himself. My brothers act like that too sometimes ~ very silly. But they are straight.
2007-01-27 03:41:00 · answer #10 · answered by ♥michele♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋