There's this guy I've known for a year, he's really cool and our conversations can get pretty funny...but it's straining to talk to him at the same time. I've had to set up these invisible boundaries for myself of what I can and can't talk about, and be prepared to explain myself for everything I say. It stresses me out but yet we still talk.
He can be brutal if I say anything he doesn't like, and is quick to jump down my throat for it. It's usually a disagreement over something, I like it and he doesn't, or vice versa. If I don't agree with him then I'm automatically stupid for it. He's very manipulative and me being a very stubborn person...it sets me off. We've had fights over me saying "Just because you don't like something doesn't mean everyone else is wrong for liking it", because I refuse to change my opinion for anyone. So...this makes for a very rocky friendship.
2007-01-27 03:20:46 · 5 answers · asked by Xianpu 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'm still upset from yesterday, he started trashing my mother and naturally I went into panic mode and defended her rep any way I could. My mother may make a lot of mistakes that have cost us both dearly(that I admit to ranting about when I get upset), but she's a good mother. -_- I got really angry at him for it...after a bit of convincing that my mom rocks, we just talked about something else...I feel he owes me an apology but I'm scared to say anything. He's just....like a shark or something. It takes a bite out of you, would you approach it and demand it apologize for biting you? I think not ._.
How can I be so close to someone that I'm scared to talk to half the time, who I feel too stupid to even be communicating with...
I was thinking about breaking off our friendship because I'm really upset, but I feel I'm being irrational and it would just cause a damn war that would eventually drag itself into OT and cause a lot of drama.
2007-01-27 03:21:27 · update #1
Girl, I know where ur coming from me and my boyfriend are the same way we can never agree on anything and the times that we spend together we are always fighting about every little thing like yesterday I was on the phone and we were leaving his house I had only been on the phone for a second and he was already makeing faces and getting mad I got off the phone ASAP! when I did GIRL! I couldn't get enough of his ranting about it. Sometimes I want to leave him because we just can't get along but everytime I try I always end up back with him. I think that you should sit down and talk to him and tell him how u feel and if he doesn't understand then just walk away that's the best advice I can give to you... GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-01-27 03:33:40 · answer #1 · answered by Elizabeth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be scared of him. You have to talk to him or else he will take advantage of that.
Girl, I know where ur coming from me and my boyfriend are the same way we can never agree on anything and the times that we spend together we are always fighting about every little thing like yesterday I was on the phone and we were leaving his house I had only been on the phone for a second and he was already makeing faces and getting mad I got off the phone ASAP! when I did GIRL! I couldn't get enough of his ranting about it. Sometimes I want to leave him because we just can't get along but everytime I try I always end up back with him. I think that you should sit down and talk to him and tell him how u feel and if he doesn't understand then just walk away. Be frank with him, tell him the truth, if he likes to be your friend, he has to respect your ideas too, and respect your family too. If he can not respect you and your family then juut leave him, because you don't need a jerk to be your friend.
2007-01-27 11:42:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your "friend" stresses you out that much is it really a friendship or is he trying to control the way you think. Someone that manipulative is not doing you any good. Friends are suppose to be helpful not hurtful. Think about that next time you are having a talk.
2007-01-27 11:40:35 · answer #3 · answered by TinyBear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please be frank to him, tell him the truth, if he likes to be yr friends, he has to respect yr ideas too, and respect yr family too. Thats is call a friend, If he can respect both of it, then juz leave him, u dnt need a jerk to be yr friends.
2007-01-27 11:34:19 · answer #4 · answered by ironlady42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be scared you have to alk to him or else he will take advantage of that.
2007-01-27 11:27:17 · answer #5 · answered by SuWizzle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋