2007-01-27 03:06:14 · 17 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The best advice I can give you is to get the hell away from him first. Come up with an escape plan. Figure out where, when and how you will escape. Once you are safe and away from him, talk to a lawyer about the divorce. Take as much money and personal possessions as you can and escape.
I'm sorry you married this loser. But realize that there are plenty of good men out there that don't abuse their wives. Good luck, stay safe.
Update: I found some links for you.
2007-01-27 03:12:05 · answer #1 · answered by ZCT 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you do need to get to a place where he can not find you., or at least where there are people around you at all times. filing for a divorce is the easy part. Let as many people know what is going on as possible. Even the police, file reports get restraining orders, make it really hard for him to even think of getting close to you again. I hope you have family that can help you. This guy could get very dangerous. It happens all the time. Once you are away from him, you can go to the Hall of Records and file for a divorce for about 50.00
2007-01-27 03:15:24 · answer #2 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I asked my family the same question once. When I left my husband because of his temper I moved in with my mom and got a Restraining Order, still he would break into my home and follow me around, its hard and scary. A year later this was still going on so I moved out of state and didn't tell anyone where I was going. It worked I'm happy now. I do miss my family but its safe for them no to know where I am, if they don't know then no one can slip up and tell him. Take care and make sure to get a Restraining Order they're easy to get and free, They do help, but I would say if he's as bad as my ex then after you leave him find a nice safe place to move, I know its hard but its better than being beaten everyday!!
2007-01-27 03:44:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO TO A SHELTER FOR ABUSED WOMEN FIRST.
Then go get yourself an attorney familiar with battered women .The lawyer will guide you through the process without revealing your safe house .Some people think just a restraining order will protect you ,They`re wrong . Many women have been killed by enraged spouses after being served .
SAFETY FIRST.
2007-01-27 03:21:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can go to any lawyer and they will keep your address out of it since it is an abusive marriage...I went through Prairie Legal Services... I was in an abusive marriage and they asked me if i wanted to keep my address private so my ex didn't know where i was living...Anyone will try to help you be safe...Hope this helps and you are doing the right thing...Just take care of yourself..
2007-01-27 03:14:07 · answer #5 · answered by Tonya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
file for divorce tell them u don't know where he is, they will put the divorce in the newspaper several times, if he doesn't happen to see it he will not be responding, and u will get your divorce by default. not everyone reads that part of the newspaper and seldom sees it.
2007-01-27 03:18:58 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your best bet is to file a restraining order. That way the police can help you if things turn ugly. Ending your marriage is the right thing to do if a spouse is violent, so definitely do it.
2007-01-27 03:10:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to a lawyer yet? Many lawyers will allow you to sit down to an initial meeting without charging you. He/She might be able to handle everything without allowing your husband to know where you are.
2007-01-27 03:24:17 · answer #8 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell a lawyer you want your address confidentional because of your abusive husband get a restraing order to keep him away relocate where he can't find you go to a shelter if you have too they'll help so he won't know where your at i been threw it too
2007-01-27 03:30:35 · answer #9 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need a restraining order. Get a lawyer(you can probably get one Pro-Bono) and have them file for you.
2007-01-27 04:11:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋