My husbands ex-wife is under the impression(from where I have no clue) that I'm 6 yrs older than her! She's turning 34 in a few weeks and I turned 37 a few weeks ago so where does the 6 yrs come from??? I don't know why but this bugs me. 3 yrs, not 6!!! Should I tell her she's mistaken? The whole thing is, my husband is younger than me by a yr and a half and she has always called me a cradle robber, a desperate woman trying to hold onto my youth, etc. I'm not old for crying out loud, I'm 37 =) And since she's 120+ lbs overweight, has mental problems and takes medications, and has had 4 kids, her actual "real age" is probably much higher than mine as I am fit and keep my weight in check plus haven't had 4 kids nor do I have mental disorders. I really don't understand why this bothers me so much but it must be resolved!! lol
Thanks for not being mean when commenting(hint, hint ;)
2007-01-27 02:58:17 · 13 answers · asked by Incognito 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe you are letting her bother you. Who cares about the age. My lord...my husband is 18 years younger than me. I got sick of being called a cougar. (by my miserable mother none the less). I just had my relationship and was happy.
The ex wife is miserable. She has nothing to do but complain about you. Afterall, you are thinner....and with her ex husband. Give her this bit of pleasure...and smille.
After all you must be one hot chick to have hooked in her hubby!!!! (well that is what she thinks at least)
Be the strong one!!!!
2007-01-27 03:11:11 · answer #1 · answered by kishoti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI, First i don't think picking up on the EX wives faults are going too help you at all, if anything in the long run it will probably make you feel even worse.
It sounds like its not so much the problem with her believing your 6 years older then her its more that she goes on about you being older then your husband.. One thing about bitter ex wives are that if you were younger then him she would find something else to have a go at you about!
Maybe something you could look at is what has happened that has made her so bitter, and why she feels this way about you.
If her thinking your 6 Yrs older then her bothers you that much then say something too her one day like "oh we went out for dinner too celebrate my 37th birthday, it was a couple of weeks late but it was GREAT"
try and be subtle.
But i can almost guarantee that she will either continue it because you are still older then your husband ( not that it really matters ones your both over 18 anyway) or she will just find something else i would just leave her believing what she does better the devil you know!
Good luck
2007-01-27 11:26:20 · answer #2 · answered by elfsbabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure about the not having mental problems,hint,hint.The fact that this topic is such an issue says volumes about you mentally.Sounds like your man is picking the same type women in different packages to me.I am not being mean but you should worry about your thinking not what this other woman says.You and she have to get along better than you are since you both are involved in this mans life.Get off your horse and stop thinking you are better than she .If you were you'd be trying to make things smooth rather than feeding into the bitterness that's growing.
2007-01-27 11:23:43 · answer #3 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ignore Attila the Hun and go on with my life. One and a half years age difference does not make you a cradle robber. Forget about her-she sounds like a MESS!
2007-01-27 11:09:36 · answer #4 · answered by Pesty Wadoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is just jealous and trying to hurt you, by getting to you and she thinks that this might do it. So don't let her have that satisfaction. I am 6 years older than my husband and when his ex made a comment about that so that it would get back to me, i simply stated that older women make better lovers and I have not heard another word.
2007-01-27 11:20:28 · answer #5 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider the source. She found your weak spot and knows it bothers you. Let her have her fun. You got the man. She has nothing. Act like it does not bother you. Make a joke about it. When she teases you about robbing the cradle. Agree with her,
"yeah.....ain't it great! He's my boy-toy." Once she figures out that it doesn't bother you....she will stop doing it.
2007-01-27 11:10:55 · answer #6 · answered by Crispy_Frog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tori, thanks for the smile. I was down, looking at all the problems, trying to come up with cheerful answers that might lighten someones day. Instead you lightened mine. You'd have to know me to understand why. I guess it would be considered an inside joke. Your probably scratching your head going ....what? Just know I needed that! Thanks! Oh by the way. Things with his ex will never get better. Experience!
2007-01-27 11:14:32 · answer #7 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend, let this go! She is just jealous of you because you have her EX husband. Who really cares what she thinks?! Does what comes out of her mouth really bother you? Shake them haters off and go on about your business. Don't let her comments worry you so.
Don't let her immaturity bring you down to her level!
2007-01-27 11:23:38 · answer #8 · answered by tlwren 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This woman doesn't sound worth your time. Let her think what she wants - the fact is, her ex husband is married now to you - she's probably just jealous and grasping at straws.
2007-01-27 11:09:43 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm, yeah. You're trippin'. Obsessing over something silly. You have the man, so why do you want a cat fight with the ex?
2007-01-27 11:52:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋