Can having an affair, ending it and feeling guilty make you realize just what you have at home and how much you DO love your spouse?
2007-01-27 02:31:27 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sure it can. If there is any good that comes from cheating on your family, then it's appreciation for what you have. Of course, your spouse may not see it that way. But if it's over then keep it that way. And hopefully you were smart enough to where nobody will ever find out about it. But if you have any decency at all, knowing what you did will haunt you with every kiss goodnight, every kiss good morning, and every time your spouse smiles and says "I love you".
2007-01-27 03:19:56 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well something was missing from the marriage for you to cheat. But I remember something that I was told when I was younger and it rings true even to this day.
ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER!!! The temptation will be there again and more than likely at a vulnerable point in time you will fall again. I can just spend time by myself to realize how much I love my partner. the question you must as yourself is what is missing in your marriage? Love, honesty, commitment, trust, communication, sex.. And pray and hope that your spouse would forgive you if they found out... I wish you the best, but you might to see bout some counseling... Guilt is a natural feeling for people that have a conscientious. Glad to see that you have one though.. But the question is why do you feel guilty? do you feel guilty for ending the affair or having the affair? Or could it be the fear of the person you had the affair with letting your spouse know what happened? Is it from the fear of knowing that is possible that your spouse will find out and that you have been caught? Some questions that you might want to think bout.. good luck
2007-01-27 02:43:40 · answer #2 · answered by unforseenfantasy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
having an affair can help u realize that u love your spouse, only because u really liked your spouse better than the person u had the affair with. makes u value your relationship more, seeing that maybe affairs aren't all they are cracked up to be.
2007-01-27 03:03:30 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes ...but you may also wake up to reality and your spouse will find out and leave you* So doesn't matter how You're feeling with the guilt etc......it may be too late* Why would you have to have an "affair" with someone ?? Somethings not right in your marriage to begin with* having an affair wont help things get better* YIKES* Goodluck*
2007-01-27 02:35:04 · answer #4 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats usually the senario. Only you should have realized all of that before the affair, and discussed the problems you were having with your partner , instead of going outside then running back. Many lives are destroyed every day by this kindof behavior. These people do not deserve to be in loving committed relationships, they deserve to be wandering the streets humping like dogs.
2007-01-27 03:01:48 · answer #5 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! Having an affair and getting away with in only strengthens the idea that if you can do it once, you can do it again, and again, and again! Having an affair and getting caught but having her seem so desperate to cling on to this cheater only strengthens the knowledge that she's a rug and can be stomped on any time you want. Cheating does nothing but destroys marriages, destroys character, destroys everything!
2007-01-27 02:45:35 · answer #6 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a affair is a result of Boredom. If you truelly love your mate you need to ask forgiveness . Remember honesty is the best policy! If the love is true you will be happy with eachother forever! Home as you stated is only what you make it! Comfort and stability is no reason to go back, it should be for your burning desire to be with that one person you hold dear to youe heart!
Hope this helps!
2007-01-27 02:44:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Need to realize that before you have a affair an bring another person into your bed, some things arent as easy to forget and overcome as you may think.If your thinking of makeing the relationship stronger choose another way, this way will do exactly the oppisite.
2007-01-27 02:43:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no - don't try it if you haven't it may end in divorce and you will only hert your spouse...my fiance had a fling with an ex.... it wasn't physical but it was still wrong it destroyed me we're working things out only b/c it wasn't physical.... they talked online and she lives 5 states away...i think he depended on her for friendship but what was said still broke my heart and watching me in that much pain broke his ..... trust me
..the best thing to do is sit down with your spouse and explain that you feel i guess that you don't appreciate your home life enough or that you feel cut off from your emotions it could bring you closer...if you don't want to let your spouse know..then try being spontaneuos romantic try to bring back the spark you did have it should make you appreciate them that much more....
2007-01-27 02:49:18 · answer #9 · answered by leanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely
2007-01-27 02:36:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋