I'm at the end of my marriage. My wife and I have been together for about 19 years(married 14). She's 11 years younger then me. I freely admit I was attracted to her for her beauty and sexuality. She was 22 and I was 33 when we met. Over time she's failed to mature. She's more selfish and has only held a job on and off when she wanted something. She's sill a hot looking woman but her sexuality has decreased significantly while mine has, if anything, increased (no, she's not cheating). We now have a lot of problems when it comes to finances and sex. Yes, it was probably my fault. My questions:
1) When we finally split she'll basically be helpless. Should I feel quilty (as I do)?
2) At 52 do I have a chance to find a mature, sexy woman who can
be compatable with me?
2007-01-27 02:27:51 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Can you idiots not bother answering or do you think you're that "special" that I need to hear from you/
2007-01-27 12:18:58 · update #1
Yes you can find love again just gotta get back out there maybe go on Yahoo Personals you would be surprised at the beautiful women on there..Find out what your looking for in a woman and before you jump into another relationship make sure the woman knows what you want. :))))
2007-01-27 03:37:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dude, I'm a 49 y/o guy, so I should be on the same frequency as you. However, I'm not. You say she has not matured, I tell you, YOU have not matured. 19 years of marriage and you haven't learned anything. Responsibility being at the forefront! You have it all right now, and your completely blind to it. How can someone get so screwed up? Well, to give you advice now would be a waste of my time, you are deeply seated in your ignorance. I feel for your wife. I pity your life. I'm sad that with just a small amount of communication you could be in heaven on earth. If you think the grass is greener on the other side of the fence, you have just lowered yourself to a cow!
2007-01-27 10:54:27 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sound shallow and clueless. Did you have any children with your trophy wife? With any luck, she should get alimony from you. She gave you the best years of her youth. Hopefully she will be treated more like a woman and less of an object when she moves on.
Now you are looking to repeat the pattern. Maybe you will find a more mature sex "partner" for your ever increasing need to soothe your immature and insecure libido.
2007-01-27 10:52:11 · answer #3 · answered by Crispy_Frog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she should know you are gettign a divorce, and she will have to get a job. That is up to her she is the adult.
Yes you will still be able to find a mature sexy woman, the older women can be just a sexy, so don't write them off!
2007-01-27 10:54:43 · answer #4 · answered by Brandy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got married at 27 & he was 28. I had lived in a cult my first 22 years of life & was not prepared at all about marriage - should never have married! We tried sex for about 5 yrs., but I had been so sexually abused that I couldn't stand to do it. My husband stayed married to me for 20 years & in that 20 years I was in intensive therapy for 15 yrs. & my husband had put up with me because he knew that I couldn't take care of myself. But as I got better in therapy, he finally joined me in my therapy session & told me that he wanted to divorce me because he was tired of me & that he trusted that I could now cope with life without him. He was right - I finally could learn autonomy - something I had never learned 'cause in the cult I learned that everyone around me knew better than me, so I hid behind people including my husband, whatever he said I did. I hope he didn't feel guilty, though it was very hard on me.
Being hurt by the divorce & everything I knew, I didn't want to pursue a relationship with any other guy. I still feel too vulnerable to try to, but in your situation - I believe there are opportuntities out there if you look for them. I bet you'll be very cautious, though, having come from a dysfunctional relationship. Good luck to you!
2007-01-27 10:47:20 · answer #5 · answered by tbeargin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, you will feel guilty if you are being unfair with her in your decisions...at 52 you can still find a woman who is mature sexy woman who are compatible with you. so many girls also want older man so you still have the change for a second marriage.
2007-01-27 10:40:17 · answer #6 · answered by matessa2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense but marriage is important and leaving your spouse isn't right for any reason unless she has been unfaithful.
I encourage what the above user said get counseling and perhaps if both of you would attend a bible believing church then your relationship will strengthen.
2007-01-27 10:36:37 · answer #7 · answered by AlienJack J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you split up she will mature faster than you ca ever imagine. If she is as hot as you say she will have another guy in a few minutes. As for you ...all the best
2007-01-27 10:36:32 · answer #8 · answered by cynnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Yes, take care of her as best you can even after the divorce.
2) Yes, the best kind attend church. Find a church you like and I can nearly guarantee you'll have many good options.
2007-01-27 10:34:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im 58 im separated from my cheating abusive husband id like a friend but not no relationship till im divorced then somebody maybe you'll find some one who will be good to you church is the best place good luck
2007-01-27 10:51:55 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋