2007-01-27 02:25:10 · 18 answers · asked by stlbluzfan69 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The first thing, is never make a threat whether you are a lady or a man.
That is sad that your husband refuses to work, because I have always believed in supporting the wife and children, and I have proved that to my family. I am not saying that I was the perfect husband or father, but I never let my family go hungry, or without clothes. They may not have had the expensive things to wear, but I did make sure they had something that was suitable for school or at home.
I found myself working two or more jobs to make sure that there was food, utilities, and something warm to wear.
I know there are some men and women that may not be able to work for some kind of medical or health reason, and I support those people that are in that type of condition.
I do not support a person for just being lazy or not wanting to work.
Have a wonderful weekend.
2007-01-27 05:06:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So as Dr Phil would say, "hows that working for you?" I suggest you try more positive encouragements. amazingly it can actually produce results.( do you want to be right or get results? make your choice)
Remind him of how good he is at something particular. Compliment anything you can find him doing. talk about the social benefits of working. make it your intention to find a positive way to do this and you will discover a way.
Get him a book on the many self-employment opportunities and businesses one may start up that afford him a way to earn income without some of the things about working he does not like( bosses, alarm clocks etc) if he likes computer games, maybe a school on game machine repair or buy a game center. be creative. some job training may be a good idea.
Maybe he could have a vending machine route or a laundrymat.
Maybe he could be a fishing guide or do some car repair in back yard or buy cars, fix them up and sell them. There are thousands of ways to make money and some are fun if it is the right one for the right person.
Maybe a website blog could get him some income.
Find out his dream and encourage it. some guys make money owning strip clubs. it is very lucrative. open up the doors of possibilities.
get a RE license. get a commerical drivers lic. get an insurance lic. give golf lessons or tutor piano. find out what he does well and encourage him. do not nag or complain. this can make him balky and resentful.it is counterproductive to be reminded of faults and destroys incentive and confidence. support him emotionally stand by your man. give him Love and Affection and Attention, and Appreciation and he will naturally want to repay you. thats how you do it girl. avoid control, complaints and criticism.( especially valid criticism is the worst)
humans are easy to move if you use these methods.
2007-01-27 02:46:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he ain't welling to get up & get a job and be a real man, then he will not do it for you. The best thing to do is stop making threats & just leave him. There are so many men out there who know how to take on responsiblity & be a man. If he refuse to work he'll probably never work & if he does he probably won't keep it for long.
2007-01-27 03:16:09 · answer #3 · answered by smileygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 04:24:51 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE ALREADY! Threats are just threats unless you follow through. He's calling your bluff, so leave! Of course if you have children together, it might be hard explaining to your crying children at night why you all had to move and daddy had to stay home.
2007-01-27 03:24:06 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this raises more questions than I have answers at the moment... sounds to me like you're a parent more than you are a spouse... and like EWWW!!! mom... with benefits???? LOL. talk to his parents... were they relieved you unburdened them? Is he educated... oh wait? Daisy May...is that you? are you still in that trailer park with Bubba?
Time for talk is over... pack your bags... and move in with a friend, or relative... if he doesn't pull his sh*t together and come get you... then why should you apply any more effort to this relationship? I generally say "stick it out and make it work" in most marriage scenarios... but I have zero tollerance for lazy *ssh*les that expect to marry their Mothers...
I suspect you bought a "diamond in the rough" perhaps you thought he was a little "fixer upper" that your love would ignite his ambition... sweetie... there aint no such thing... guys have all the "options" they are ever going to come with by the time they leave the nest. You won't change him, and he won't change to suit you're vision of him. save yourself some trouble in the future... don't settle... if he doesn't come fully equipped don't expect to be happy.
2007-01-27 02:42:32 · answer #6 · answered by alex b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can't MAKE anyone do anything. However, if he doesn't care enough to find a job to prevent you from leaving, then leave! He will then be forced to find a job because you are not supporting him any more. I wouldn't take him back at that time, however. He sounds like a real winner..........
2007-01-27 02:30:26 · answer #7 · answered by nurse ratchet 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why make threats? If he can't do his part kick him to the curb.
Have the police remove him, that way he'll know you aren't
joking. Hopefully that will get the point across.
2007-01-27 04:37:56 · answer #8 · answered by Williamstown 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes threats are just seen as you being pissed off. If a woman threatens after so song it is not a shock its just words . Remember the saying, ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAT WORDS? Its time to take action.
2007-01-27 02:32:51 · answer #9 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your threats are empty if you don't carry through with them. He doesn't believe you. Let him know you mean business. Either you move or move him out.
2007-01-27 02:31:53 · answer #10 · answered by lollipop 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋