Can ANYONE please help!?

Question

Please help me somehow anybody …
When I came to the states, I lived in a suburb and there was this friend who lived not far with from my house. He had a family member that would often come over but I was quitly shy and at the first look of the “family member” I remember I had a weird feeling… I just didn’t know what it was-but it was something strong and powerful deep in me. There would be times we would play but that feeling would stop me because I just didn’t know what it was. I was a quiet shy girl at the time.
But my story is… when I moved to different city –I lost contact of the “friend” and when I had to switch schools –I was so nervous and scared of going to a new school, but as soon as I walked in, I had a strange feeling –and when I came into my class “there he was the friends family member looking straight at me. The feeling returned-still unkown to me what it meant-but it was so deep and strong-and no words were spoken –only eye to eye connection.
So there we were going to the same schools together, and each day to day the feeling got stronger-as if he was a part of me in away- as if my mind was telling me something different then my heart-its weird –so weird beyond weird to me… but years passed and we came close until I told him I didn’t like him ( but the truth was I couldn’t help myself and this feeling was uncontrollable –and I would do everthing I can to get him out of my head.

And then ever since that day…to this day I have dreams of him out of nowhere, Im not even thinking of him and there he is –as if we where together-and then I always in the dream am –with him smiling… so happy like never before. Even though I am with a different men…this “friends family member” is always within me a part of my soul. Whenever I would meet a new person, the first night I would dream about him and this happened every day till today. Its starting to creep me out so badly that I just don’t know what to do…. I love my boyfriend so much…but this person wont let me live a peaceful life because if I don’t dream about him…then the weirdest things will always happen that will always bring him up in my mind… I mean the weirdest.
Help me ….what is it?

please-it was not abuse..or i do not even think of him.... out of nowhere he will show up in my dreams --and if he doesnt then --i find out im working with his family or that ill be walking out of a building and there is his sister friend etc....

please-it was not abuse..or i do not even think of him.... out of nowhere he will show up in my dreams --and if he doesnt then --i find out im working with his family or that ill be walking out of a building and there is his sister friend etc....

Answer 1

I'm not a psychiatrist; just a layman trying help if I can. Your feeling was getting stronger and stronger because you keep thinking about him. You have never talked about this feeling to anybody else; you kept it to yourself. But, you said NO to this person, even you "like" him like crazy. By doing that, you might have thinking-and-thinking a thousand times "why you said NO" or vise-versa.

My points are:
1. Talk about him to other people; somebody you can trust fully.
2. The more you unload your burden, the more free you are.

Good luck.

Answer 2

It may be that you have lived something quite intense, for better or worse, with this person in another life. Is it a negative or a positive feeling you feel towards this person ? You see he may have been your father, brother, husband, lover, partner, antagonist in another life. Each of us has a "helper" beyond and I think that if you solicit its help then you may find the answer. It may come to you in a flash, in a dream ( sometimes highly coded which you will have to decipher in a plausible way) or you will just understand. It may take some time, even years but, if you keep at it you will find the answer.

Answer 3

Hi. I've had that expierience before where someone keeps turning up in my life. I usually just chalk it up to a past life thing where we had known each other in another life and have some unfinished thing to work out between our souls.

Answer 4

You think too much. Making up stories about him in your head. You probably think about this guy so much even during the day that he enters your dreams at night. Everytime you find yourself thinking about him, think about something else.

Answer 5

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