One day he want's to be with me and the next he's saying that he's talked to a lawyer and the papers are coming so i tell him fine. I've tried everything to help are relationship but nothing seems to work. He'll hang out with me one day and then the next tell me that he's had enough, i'm 8 months pregnant and 21 years old for the past three years i've given so much up jobs and friends just to make him happy and now i feel like he's throwing me on my ***. He tells me he wants nothing to do with the baby and that he won't be at the hospital with me when the baby is born. Should i just accept that things won't change and prepare myself to move on.
2007-01-27 02:11:28 · 11 answers · asked by katiew36 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
get a dna test just to get child support get alimony take him for everything hes got
2007-01-27 03:20:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ewww is this a person you really want to be around and spend time with and subject your baby to ? Yes you are giving up everything to be with him Why? He seems to be an abuser of the worst kind and you need to get out and go to a shelter for abused women . It would be better than living with this loser . Tell him good when he says he wants nothing to do with the baby . Cause the court system will see differently . He will have to pay child support and if he says that the baby is not his . get a dna test and hang him with it . Girl grow a set and get out of there before he does something drastic to you. and if he lays a hand on you have his butt thrown in jail . that will look even better in court when and if you should have to go . why do you seem to think that this relationship needs all your help if he isnt going to work on it ? Man please grow a set and get out that is the only way you are going to see any peace and take care that you dont get too stressed it is not good for the baby or you . good luck .
2007-01-27 02:53:18 · answer #2 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man is a brute. I would be the one filing papers-tell him you can't wait for him. He is still legally responsible for the baby money wise so he will have that to look forward to-even if he doesn't want to see the baby or be there-who wants him there?. Slam the door in his face if he comes to the hospital. I was 22 and got pregnant by someone I knew for 3 months-we had a horrible marriage and I left after 5 years of stupidity. He had ZERO to do with the boy. My son is 24 in grad school-turned out good. It can be done. Good Luck.
2007-01-27 03:26:05 · answer #3 · answered by Pesty Wadoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi friend, Don't worry some guys are like this cant change. Approach Human Rights commission and tell them your situation clearly, or just file a case in Women police station, that you want divorce from your husband stating the following reasons. But don't loose confidence.
2016-05-24 05:09:57 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please dont batter yourself! It sounds he is young and rather immature. I have been through this and can only feel as if more effort is needed, however without knowing the circumstances in your household I truelly cannot understand the hell you are being out through! I can only hope that though talk you two can work out a understanding about each others feelings. From what you stated it sounds as if he may need to find out what it is he wants! Only the two of you can determine your outcome! If you have put much time into correcting the problems and no results. You may want to try some counceling to try to better your relationship. I hope this helps.
2007-01-27 02:40:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not accept this. Your man is a bully and his idle threats are mean. You want to shock the hell out of him? You get the papers and have them served on him. And when you go into labor do not let that asshole know about it. You and your baby deserve better and it is obvious that he is not it.You are so young and there is a good life out there and good men that will love you and not mentally abuse you. If you stay with this idiot then its your own fault because you know what you should do, don't you? Good luck sweety.
2007-01-27 02:53:31 · answer #6 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah if he leaves let him. From a christian point of view I don't think it will be a sin on your part. Paul talked about how if a unbeliever would leave his spouse then she/he should let him/her leave.
I don't know if your christian or not but you did take a oath before GOD when you were marreid.
2007-01-27 02:49:48 · answer #7 · answered by AlienJack J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you really want to spend the rest of your life and your child's living with that kind of abuse? your young and have your whole life ahead of you. kick him to the curb and stand on your on two feet and just move on. your child does not need to be raised that the abuse is OK . cause its not!
2007-01-27 02:38:43 · answer #8 · answered by donna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave him...He probably just keeps saying it to see what kind of reaction he can get from you...He would crap if he came home one day and you where gone...You have to think of yourself and that precious baby...
2007-01-27 03:24:35 · answer #9 · answered by Tonya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, accept it and move on...but first file for child support.
2007-01-27 06:47:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋