ok here goes!! My boyfriend is a very loving person he treats me very well but on the flip side he isn't very intelligent! i mean he has common sense but not too much book sense! Is that typical of men? Sometimes i feel like i'm talking to a child and it frustrates me don't get me wrong i love him b/c he treats me well but sometimes i want to have an intellectual conversation but he can't keep up! So i keep certain conversation to a minimum then when i don't talk he asks me whats wrong but i don't know how to tell him how i really feel. Besides i think that would hurt his ego. I am so confused? what should i do people?
2007-01-27 02:01:55 · 3 answers · asked by T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well I dun like to frame it as choosing "intellect" over "love". Because love can be due to intellect as well, u may love a man's intellect but not his behavior or his way of treating others, etc. But I do feel that having a healthy, meaningful conversation is crucial for a long term relationship. I feel that beautiful timeless relationship is wherein people are more like friends than like lovers. Because understand one thing, one day the physical beauty, the physical attraction will no longer be there, than what would be the driving force to sustain the relationship. It has to be your talks. If you cannot talk with him, you are going to be bored to death. You will live in misery, and seeing you in misery he would be sad. So, in spite of loving and caring about u, when he sees you in misery, he may like to look for someone, leading to additional problems in a otherwise normal relationship.
So, the best way out is to keep him as a nice, warm friend, but dun get involved for a long term commitment. It could be disastrous. I am no astrologer, and I would be happy if time proves me wrong. I would wish you the best anyway !!
2007-01-27 02:17:58 · answer #1 · answered by lihd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this, but I don't think this is the right guy for you long term. You will continue to get more and more frustrated because he can't communicate with you on your level. Before you gwet too serious, think about it.....could you be happy with someone like him? I;m sure he's a nice guy, but there's a part of your personality that isn;t connecting. Have fun with him, but when you start looking for "the one" make sure you have some interests on the same level.
2007-01-27 02:12:37 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth! I would!
2007-01-27 02:07:39 · answer #3 · answered by swt-bby-gl-69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋