What would happen then? what would your reaction be? would you still be mates with her or would u feel more conciouse of her looking at you and feel paranoid? would that affect your freindship or wouldd you tell her straight off you are straight and thats that. or would it stop you even being freinds with her?
2007-01-27 01:35:39 · 24 answers · asked by allgiggles1984 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'd tell her I was straight, but, if it's a friend of mine I'm pretty sure she'd already know that.
And I'd tell her I was flattered, but that, obviously, nothing would come of it.
I wouldn't stop being her friend, and distance myself from her, as long as she respected that I didn't feel that way about her, and didn't flirt with me, and so on.
And no, I wouldn't feel paranoid - as long as she respects me ad my boundaries there's no reason to feel threatened and paranoid. Least of all if it's a friend.
And, lastly, I would support her, and thank her for telling me. It's pretty brave of a gay friend to tell their straight friend that they're in love with them!
2007-01-27 01:44:17 · answer #1 · answered by c_lotty2001 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Do it face to face, so you can talk about it. If you just send a letter, she might freak. I don't think you should make a big production of it, as they might be too much pressure all at once. Just bring it up some time when you're talking about sex stuff. Make it clear you haven't been trying to maneuver her into something, as well. She might think you've been using her friendship to get into her pants. Be very forthright about she shouldn't feel that she has to respond sexually, and that you really don't want to lose her as a friend if she is not interested that way.
2016-03-29 04:55:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a friend, i will tell her frankly that I cannot get into such a relationship. I will tell her that I understand how she feels but I can only be a friend to her. I will ask her if she still wants me to be her friend despite what I told her and if she does, then I will tell her that this is the first and last time I will hear those words from her. That nothing changes between our friendship as long as she behaves herself. And i would still continue being a good friend to her.
2007-01-27 03:31:37 · answer #3 · answered by j6shawie26 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to have an open honest talk with her... and tell her that "kitty don't play with other kitties". If you are good friends... she'll understand and respect you. above all you need to set some firm boundaries with her if the friendship is going to continue... This could not have been an easy confession for your friend... take that into account... maybe get some clarification... & maybe it's not that "kind" of love... If it is... you need to make it clear that you can't, and won't be able to return her affection. If the relationship survives... god for you two... if it doesn't... search for the lesson... and remember fondly (not fondlingly) your old friend.
2007-01-27 01:59:16 · answer #4 · answered by alex b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to think carefully and decide whether you can cope with experimenting. If it is a well trusted friend maybe you should tell her that you have never tried anything like this and you don't think its for you. Maybe you can ask her to take it easy and respect your decission if you ask her to stop. If you don't think you can handle that then say no. I don't think you would be asking here if you didn't wonder though.
I will be frank with you I was put in this position by my best mate years ago, and I tried it out cus I was feeling randy. It weren't for me. Though I got a great b*** j** and we never lost any respect for eachother. he became my best man years later. I am not in any way into that stuff but it never did me any harm and I know my sexuallity for sure now. Dipends if you can hack it. Maybe you'll find your true calling though?
2007-01-27 11:20:37 · answer #5 · answered by Lost soul 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well i'm a lesbian and to be honest no straight woman has ever turned me down,they've all had a pretty good time in that dept. so give it a go but lay down some ground rules first about if it doesn't feel right you'll just be friends.
2007-01-27 10:30:22 · answer #6 · answered by munki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its only the same as your non lesbian friend saying it (i meen a bloke) I dunno what I would do if my friend said that.You see I think i would find myself in a predicament as I might fancy experimenting but this would be for my own selfish reasons..and then there is the issue of hurting my friends feelings. I don't think i would get paranoid tho as I would hope my friend would respect the fact that Im not interested.You should understand that its only the same as a male friend saying it.You except your friends sexuality dont you??I think you should say that u r not attracted to women and you should remain friends.
2007-01-27 08:42:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would still be her friend, no matter how weird she gets. Sure at first if she told me that she loved me for a lesbian friend I would be shock, speechless and crushed. Everyone like my mother would tell me to stay away from her but I would stick with her at all times, no matter what anyone says about her. It's my friend and my decision, not theirs. I would care for her with all my heart just like she would do for me.
2007-01-27 03:53:04 · answer #8 · answered by monnurse7 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd have to be honest with her and say it wasn't going to happen. I'd still definitely be friends with her and at first it might be a bit awkward but hopefully it'd go back to normal eventually.
2007-01-27 01:43:14 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a similar situation happen to me, i told my friend that even if she did like me, i could never be more than friends with her. about a month later she moved away and i havent heard from her since.
2007-01-27 02:24:45 · answer #10 · answered by Unhinged.... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋