What I mean is, is it ok to email 5 or 6 times and day and talk on the phone like 2 or 3 times a week and invite them to go see your jam sessions. I am invited to but I am not told when she is going to be there.
2007-01-27 00:51:37 · 16 answers · asked by Mrs. Zepol Nives 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Having friends of the opposite sex is acceptable, but there is a line you should never cross. Unfortunately, your partner gets to draw where that line should be. Many of these friendship do turn into affairs. You made commitments to your spouse, so you should be willing to toss this friendship away when it threatens you marriage. From your question, you sound close to crossing that line.
2007-01-27 01:04:27 · answer #1 · answered by A friend of Bill W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Email is well email.. but talking on the phone and hanging out with opposite sex 'friends' are going to get you eventually in trouble. Even if your not doing 'anything' I would think your spouse would start getting a bit ticked off. Your married for a reason to talk, email and hang out with them!!
2007-01-27 00:55:59 · answer #2 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
E-mails are okay and hangin out occasionally would be cool as long as your good with it but it sounds like there might be more than just friend feelings going on there. Unless he's gay no guy is going to talk on the phone with a girl and invite her to see him without you. And if he's such a good friend why doesn't he want to get to know you and be friends with you. That's what normal people do. I don't know for sure but something sounds fishy.
2007-01-27 06:37:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't get it - is your husband keeping a closer relationship with another girl and invited her to his jam session? Whoever is doing that, I don't accept it as normal and I would raise hell to my husband if he was doing that with another woman. It's okay to have friends from the opposite sex but everything has limits and you are the one who should define your limits. I'm careful with having male friends too so it's not just onesided.
2007-01-27 01:05:02 · answer #4 · answered by petyado 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight . You are the wife and your husband is doing this ...correct?
I would say if you are uncomfortable with it then NO, it's not OK. Talk to your husband about it and tell him how it makes you feel. If it is innocent then he should have no problem accepting your feelings and stopping the behavior that is making you feel this way. If he gets angry or says you have a problem then I guess you both need to work a little harder at fixing this problem. You might need to contact the other woman and find out her intentions. Hope this helps.
2007-01-27 01:01:25 · answer #5 · answered by browneyedgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be careful with those types of relationships, as they can be a source of problems. It depends on your spouse. Some people are confident enough and won't feel threatened by your friend, however if you're married to one of those jealous, controlling type of individual, you might want to be very careful with that; Unless you don't care about your marriage. Also, how well do you know that friend? make sure he/she isn't the type to make a move on you and further compromise the situation.
Hope this helps!
2007-01-27 01:00:16 · answer #6 · answered by enjoy life, u only get one try. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this friendship predates you sweetie. THat being said, if he's NEVER given you a reason to think he's cheating on you, lighten up. If he HAS, well that's a whole separate issue and since you haven't indicated if he has or not, I'd say lighten up and let him have his friend...but make sure YOU have other friends, male and female too.
2007-01-27 01:03:56 · answer #7 · answered by TEACHING GODDESS 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I used to hang out with a group of men from my former job. I still have an e-mail, penpal relationship with one. We're both married and my husband knows about it.
2007-01-27 00:58:24 · answer #8 · answered by EllieMae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well not really because your husband might be thinking your having another boy but if you still want to e-mail him & talk to him on the phone ask oyur husband if it is ok that your doing
2007-01-27 00:56:29 · answer #9 · answered by Kim G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that so..who's counting the emails and phone conversations? is someone twirling the hair...
my opinion and experience..it's just not 'healthy' to keep a strong bond with them. EVEN if the significant other knows or 'doesn't mind'...
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2007-01-27 00:59:58 · answer #10 · answered by Beanie.beanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋