What I mean by this is, is it ok to email back and forth 5 and 6 times a day and instant message when ever you can and invite them to your jam sessions even though he is inviting you to but he is being secretive about her calls which are 2 or maybe 3 times a week.
2007-01-27 00:40:31 · 16 answers · asked by Mrs. Zepol Nives 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes its fine but the secretive calls have got to end
2007-01-27 00:47:52 · answer #1 · answered by quiksilver23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If he is being secretive about this stuff, what else is he being secretive about. Time for him to make a choice, honey. If my husband even thought of doing that kind of thing, he'd be on the sofa until he reconsidered the situation. When you get married, everything changes. You can't have the same relationships you did before. They just aren't appropriate. It should be about you two. Not you three or those two. If it continues, it will eventually ruin your marriage. I hope you consider this carefully because my neighbor is getting divorced over a situation similar to this.
2007-01-27 00:55:42 · answer #2 · answered by A J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask this question- I would think it's not OK. Anything you do that makes another person question or feel uncomfortable is not OK, especially in your marriage. Ultimately, you want your marriage to last forever, without any worries. So please don't open yourself up for speculation and hurt. Communication is the key to any and all successful marriages! Talk about this and agree to something that suits you both. When you became married you became one. Good luck and ALWAYS try to get on the same page.
2007-01-27 01:04:18 · answer #3 · answered by trasista4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-01 10:05:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely... marriage is the sum of it's parts... love, trust, commitment, honesty... without any one ingredient... it will eventually fall apart... and it all depends on the social dynamics of the relationship from the outset. many more questions need to be answered before a coherent answer can be made... were they friends before you met? married? does she have a boyfrined? is she your friend too? have you asked him why he is secretive? how did you find out? do you trust him? is everything "good" between you and he? what was his relationship like with her before you came along? so much more details are needed... too many to make an honest speculation...
This is between you...him...and her... talk to him about it first... if your still uncomfortable... talk to her... tell him you're going to talk to her... if your still uncomfortable... you will need to compromise with him... if it's a very important relationship to him... it should be important to you too. It would be nice if we could be absolutely EVERYTHING for our beloveds... but we are not... do not dismiss this relationship out of jealousy... most negative emotions arise out of ignorance (ie the unknown) ..from the dark corners of our minds... throw some light on it... and learn... once you see it in the light...you'll know if you should be okay with it.
2007-01-27 00:58:53 · answer #5 · answered by alex b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is okay to have a good friendship with anyone when you are married provided it isn't "secretive" or excessive. It needs to be an honest friendship that is above-board and open to include the spouse at any point in time.
2007-01-27 00:52:26 · answer #6 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always thought that when you have a friend of the opposite sex, its a matter of time before someone wants the other one. They just dont work.
2007-01-27 01:05:53 · answer #7 · answered by boomerang3que 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's OK. It's always to have a back-up for booty calls in case #1 is unavailable or a bum screw.
2007-01-27 00:48:38 · answer #8 · answered by NONAME 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be okay if he wasn't being secretive. That's a red flag right there.
2007-01-27 00:53:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it is not okay
if one of you feels the need to be secretive then it is not okay
2007-01-27 00:46:16 · answer #10 · answered by rachie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋