Anyone stayed with their husband after he cheated and made the marriage work without any more cheating?

Answer 1

I believe this can happen. But the main ingredient, and the motivation to be faithful lies in JESUS CHRIST.

Anyone can find strength in the LORD. By believing and praying to him for help.

Jesus will and does show us that we need a savior. And teaches us that being FAITHful to not only him is essential but also your SPOUSE!!

If your husband LOVES you he will change his life and be FAITHful to YOU. But above all he needs to have FAITH in the LORD JESUS.

Even if he does not, you still can.......pray about it.

Answer 2

Why are Americans so uptight about having some love and romance (or plain old sex) outside of their marriages that fail fifty percent of the time anyway? Why do they insist on calling having some fun in bed as "cheating." Maybe if they were more open minded and understanding of human nature they would be happier and keep together.

In answer to your question, some American women do stay with their husband. My guess is that most American women get major protestant religion at that time and tell hubby to get out of the house and out of the family life. Then they go to court to get everything they possibly can. The kids, if there are any, can't figure what the H is the problem since daddy was always nice to them and now he is gone. They have major psychological damage and end up doing the same crap in their marriages.

Screw all this. Let husbands and wives have their little affaires. Just make sure each knows the boundaries and has safe sex both in and outside marriage.

This is a way of life in many, many countries with stronger families than here. Oh, the women may complain, but they know they are still in charge of the family and home life. The mistress is still a mistress.

My gosh, if the British Royals had not been hounded by the media, they would have still all be married and alive, with their little mistresses or boyfriends set up in some London town house. Everyone would know what was going on and live happily ever after.

Think how many good French and Italian movies have been made on this subject. Everyone loves them in the USA (if you ever get to see some) just because there is such freedom in the stories.

Why do you think today's fifty and sixty year olds had so much fun during the '60s sexual revolution? For once it was OK to go and have as much sex with as many people of any sexual preference, as you wanted. It was fun and when it was over and people were tired they enjoyed the life after with some good memories.

Laughter and some more sex at home is the best way to keep a husband. And don't bug him to remain inside the marriage for the rest of its tenure, because once the forbidden fruit is tasted, he never will forget it. Learn to live with that and let him do his thing. You both will be happier. (I am assuming there is a husband in trouble here)

Answer 3

Did he tell you of the ifidelity or did you find out?

Is he sorry, hurt, and cowering like he should be?

My own husband has never physically cheated but there have been some times where he thought about it and where he's played things out in his mind while doing a little real life enactments... and i actually consider that cheating in a sense.

We are working through all that but I think its not as stone cold as another woman. The best advoce I have here is Ask him.

Ask him what he saw in her. If she paid him more attention then you or if she did things in bed that you dont. or if she was just available.

Obviously the last one should NOT be a yes answer because YOU should be the only available woman in his life.

If your relationship is missing something maybe getting that back or establishing it could make your marriage work from here on out. But the truth is, knowing is hard to digest. And it's only half the battle.

Answer 4

I really think it depends on the person who cheated and why. If that is how they have always been and you just happened to find out this time then I would say it will not work unless you pretend it is not happening. If there is a good reason he had to go to someone else and you understand this reason, and if the problem can be solved with a lot of hard work on both sides then I would say it is worth a shot. If you truly love your partner, and except for this relationship he has always treated you well, you have kids and a long history, and he is good to your kids then I do not see the need to rush and break up a relationship but I would definitely make him agree to certain rules in order to gain the trust back. If he has any problems with your rules and you being able to check up on him then he is probably not wanting to really stop the relationship. He should be willing to do whatever it takes to win you back and get your relationship where it should be. You also have to be able to put it in the past and can not throw it in his face every time you are mad.

Answer 5

Yes. It has been almost a year ago that I found out my husband was cheating. We are trying to work it out because in spite of what he did, there is still love in the relationship. Not trust on my side at the moment...but I hope in time the trust will return. I am still hurt, and at times I just want to scratch his eyes out. However, we are only human. He does go out of his way to let me know where and what he is doing, and if I nag him sometimes, alot he deals with it. I guess time will tell. It depends how much you want the marriage to work. It just isn't about us. We have 2 children, and we both want to raise them together. He does understand with out a doubt. There will be no second chance...

Answer 6

This did happen to a very close friend about 15 years ago.

Her husband was caught with a coworker and readily admitted to her it had been going on for 6 omonths. My friend chose to continue the marriage with some modifications.

He was put into another room in the house. All of his activities were up for discussion and approval, his credit cards confiscated and his mail opened by her. The "other woman" was told it was over, by him and in the pesence of my friend. He transferred to another department to put some distance between him and his ex-lover.

It took him a year to earn his way back into her bedroom and even longer to earn his way back onto her heart. But he was sincere, I believe, in his remourse. He accepted responsibility for what he had done and never shifted blame. They attended therapy separately and together for over a year.

Today they are happily married and tho she remembers those days they do not cloud her love for him any longer. Even after he regained her trust, he continued to build on that by remaining open to her every question and never demanding that she return him to any degree of privacy.

I truly believe that she made the right choice and that his love for her dictated that he bare all and remain out in the open in all things in order to maintain her trust and total security in their relationship. The two of them made it work and tho I'm sure it left scars they seem even happier today than most couples I know.

I don't believe that once a cheater always a cheater. I think humans by nature are able to change, to make even a huge mistake and recover with dignity and respect returned to their partner. A ten year marriage and two lovely daughters were their motive and inspiration and maturity and good sense ruled the day.

Answer 7

It depends on the couple, if the wife is up for trying to re trust him then it could work. Both of the parties involve would have to make adjustments for this not occurring again. I personally think that the marriage is truly damaged after such a terrible betrayal is commit-ed

Answer 8

If the person that cheated apologizes and explains why they did it the marriage can go on if the partner forgives. Trust will be a factor for some time, but it can and will work.
It will help if you get help from a good marriage counselor. They can really help.

Answer 9

Now, my situation with cheating was prior to marriage, I was an idiot as it happened more than once, it took a psycho to make him starighten up and now we're happily married, and i trust him wholehartedly. I know it sounds like "LaLa" land for me but it took aalot of faith and trust on my part, I have to say, I would never stick it out again, it was way too emotinally draining, but I'm glad I did.

Answer 10

I think if you can change either the reason why the cheating occurred ( lack of communication, respect) or the person who cheated attitude about cheating (that its okay and acceptable)to its hurtful and it does affect their partner then a relationship can be successful.

Answer 11

Ever heard the old saying" once a cheater, always a cheater" ? A man will cheat if given the opportunity to do so.