that was from a girl that said............"I'm glad you called me back, it was nice to hear a familiar voice. If Tim and I ( her husband ) should ever get back to California we'll be sure to look you up. Take care."
We actually just got married and he used to live / work in another state about 5 years ago so I'm assuming this person is from his old job since he still deals with his old company quite a bit with his new job...??? I'm kinda freaking out right now.....am I being paranoid? She sent it about 2 months ago and he never mentioned it. Should I ask him about it? Not sure how I would without admitting I "accidentally" saw it.
2007-01-26 23:19:36 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
it was just an email... but i do understand why you want him to tell you.. which he should because you guys are married and you guys should tell each other everything.. it might of been just an old friend and you said she lives in other state and she mentioned her husband in the letter which most women who want your man would not do.. all she said is if we are ever in California me and my husband will look you up.. that really doesn't sound bad at all.maybe ask him why he didn't tell you about her and about her emailing him but i wouldn't get to worried about that it seems like a good old friend who hasn't spoken or seen him in years.. but keep your eyes and ears open just in case
2007-01-26 23:30:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you didn't mention if this was a private e-mail account of your husbands. If it were, why were you checking it? Do you feel as if you needed to? If that is the case, confronting him on this e-mail might bring up an all together new issue of trust. And if you feel the need to read his private e-mail, you then need to ask yourself, why are you doing this? Me personally, I could not let this just go without questioning him on this. Just because I think that when a couple is married they both need to be sensitive when talking with someone of the from the past. At the least tell them that they called or ran into someone from the past. Just so issues like this aren't a surprise or left open for questioning. If he has nothing to hide, he will explain it to you, but I am sure he would be upset that you read his private mail. Secondly, if this isn't a private mail and you just came across it, I don't see any problem with you confronting him on this. But be careful how you present it to him. You can say, Hey Dear, I came across an email from your friend and I was curious as to what it is about. Trust in a marriage is probably the biggest factor ..If you can't trust your mate, then more problems will come. But just trusting alone without explaining someones actions is not fair. He needs to know that if the shoe were on the other foot and he read an email of yours that was simular, he would want to know what it was about too. I would just be upfront about it with him.. Good Luck..
2007-01-26 23:33:24 · answer #2 · answered by Karen H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Other than this email, has there been any actions from him to make you suspect him not being loyal to you? How/where did you see this email. If it was in a mailbox you both share, then you could say, "oh i notice this the other day" and judge his reaction. If you went into his personal email behind his back, i'd say that was wrong becuase it shows there is no trust on your part. Perhaps this is a former co-worker or friend. Maybe she knows he is married to you and if they would come into your area, they'd like to both join you and your husband for dinner. However, if he would get angry or defensive right away, then i'd be suspicious. Without knowing the full story, its hard to judge by just reading that "my husband got a note from a girl, is he up to something". bottom line, a relationship without trust is worthless. So if you trust one another and normally are very secure, then there is nothing to worry about.
2007-01-26 23:25:24 · answer #3 · answered by smckech1972 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are being super paranoid.
She mentions her husband in the email. Trust me, if she had any "bad" intentions, there would have been NO mention of her husband.
Not to mention that if YOUR husband felt this was a "romantic" email, he would have deleted it and you would have not run across it 2 months later.
Jealousy kills many relationships. Rate your new hubby on how he acts and treats you. Not on an innocent 2 month old email.
2007-01-26 23:23:48 · answer #4 · answered by Gem 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, in my opinion, if she said that she was happy that HE called HER back, she must have made the first initial call. If she is mentioning her husband, I would not worry. I would need more proof than that. I have also accidentally seen emails also and know how you feel. This internet makes it so easy and tempting for people to do stupid things.
2007-01-26 23:38:06 · answer #5 · answered by Pesty Wadoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him and trust him I wouldn't read too much into it. After all, he did have a life before he met you. I have tons of female friends and get mail all the time. I've a few lady friends through this thing and my blog. It's no big deal... If you are that concerned, tell him. He may be a little annoyed that you were reading his mail but on the other hand, if he has nothing to hide he shouldn't be too upset...
2007-01-26 23:25:17 · answer #6 · answered by Moon Man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
To be paranoid you be going through a ruff time at home or something has happen to have that doubt in the back of your mine?
Hmm, I wouldn't be to quick to bring up to hubby could be nothing at all.
So don't rock the boat just yet but rather play detective on your own time see what happen if anything at all.
The best to you ^j^ Sandra ^j^
2007-01-26 23:41:29 · answer #7 · answered by Bluelady... 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you have something else to go on, it sounds like you are over reacting. It could be a friend from high school, a former colleague or even a relative you haven't met. Instead of obsessing or dwelling on this, make him feel loved and you will be happy.
2007-01-26 23:41:30 · answer #8 · answered by Carl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is married, if something was going on why would she look your husband up if her and her husband ever got back to CA?
2007-01-26 23:22:54 · answer #9 · answered by foodguru 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mention that you accidentally saw it. You're married so there should be no secrets.
2007-01-26 23:22:49 · answer #10 · answered by Rawkus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋