2007-01-26 23:15:22 · 8 answers · asked by frankcanada2003 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Most online dealings are fantasy because there really can't be a committment. Plus you both are married you both should remember your vows.
2007-01-26 23:32:04 · answer #1 · answered by kelsey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you be having an online "affair" if you are married. You should have a little more respect for your spouse. If there's trouble in marriage, get a counselor and fix those problems. If you can't fix the problems, then get out of the relationship.
...and yes, it's fantasy. People can create a very different character and personality online. You could be talking to someone your own sex who's 30 years older than you and has 15 kids.
Get off that computer and fix your problems with your spouse. Good luck!
2007-01-27 07:41:37 · answer #2 · answered by jazz_lover_25 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can,t tell. It is fantasy that is bought about by simply
having a 'bit of fun' bought about because your relationship
goes stale. You have to sort out the problems within
your marriage. Ask yourself whats missing? Something is
missing when you have to turn to a computer to fulfill your
needs. The danger comes when fantasy turns
into reality and that is when the time comes that you want
to meet up. No longer satisfied with being online. You want
more - that is when spouses eventually find out. Please both
of you sort your own marriages out first and ask yourselves
if you still love your partner. Stop this online affair at the same
time. Because whatever way you look at it you are both CHEATING.
My husband was in your shoes and I found out. I was gutted.
But is made me realise how much I loved him. It made us both
communicate for the first time in years as we were in a marriage
that felt as we were more like brother and sister instead of lovers.
Now my husband is so happy that we are back on track. We are
like teenagers again and he has no need of turning elsewhere
for love and affection. I was hurt and am still hurting but he is
suffering also for the pain that he caused me. Because he was
emotionally involved with someone who he did not really know.
So once again, talk to your partners and see if anything can be
resolved before worrying about whether something is real or
fantasy. With best wishes from someone who knows.
2007-01-27 07:43:14 · answer #3 · answered by Minxy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does not really matter wheter it is real or fantasy as both are wrong and adulterous and should not be happening... The fanatsies can always become reality so why even flirt and dab around in it to begin with.... If you play with fire you will get burnt!
2007-01-27 08:03:20 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I would suggest dropping the online fantasy, getting off the computer, and spending some quality time with your wife/husband!
Gah, there are so many cheaters on this site and you all act like it's okay or something!!
I would NEVER cheat on my wife, that is so horrible! I couldn't live with myself!
2007-01-27 07:22:24 · answer #5 · answered by uabsupercow 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
unless your willing to meet them, i say there is no way you can know. i mean come on... you have heard of all the stories of guy talking to guys and family members talking to each other. why even put yourself through that. but if you feel the same that the person is telling you they feel about you then i say go for it.
2007-01-27 07:22:13 · answer #6 · answered by matta_yasashi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never tell, people lie all the time on-line because there is no face to face contact and they feel safe "saying" anything. Sorry
2007-01-27 07:17:52 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell - its FANTASY
you are online!!!
2007-01-27 07:22:46 · answer #8 · answered by rachie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋