he has a family , a wife and a son. however, inspite of knowing the fact i as drawn towards him. we have a relation since past two and a half years.
this 31st night i was partying with my college friends. late night my best friend kissed me and proposed me. i was taken aback by the warmth and could not say no.
but now i cant tell either of the two guys in my life the existence of the other. both are equally important to me. please tell me what should i do. i dont want either of them
2007-01-26 23:07:09 · 19 answers · asked by Armaan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Get yourself out of this mess immediately. What goes around comes around. Don't be a homewrecker and think that you are gonna be "happly married" when you are ready to settle down. Be careful of the seeds you sow.........there will be a harvest time. Trust me!!!
2007-01-27 00:09:48 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I recommend that you break it off with your boss. Bad medicine! Consider the damage that has already been caused to his marriage, and the potential for damaging your own reputation.
As for your friend, I can tell you that I've been married for over 20 years, and my wife and I were best friends years before that, even when we were seeing other people. She's still my best friend, and what I've discovered is that, when the sex starts to become less important in a relationship, the friendship and pleasure of the other's company is something to be treasured.
Good luck.
2007-01-26 23:15:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well you just can't cut off the boss from boning you. I mean, what about your career and job. Think of all the bennies you will lose when the boss loses his regular poke.
As to the other guy. Dump him. No bennies or preferential treatment there.
I mean if you've gotta put out, at least get something in return. Don't give up that coochie unless there is some return, and that means only let the boss stick it to you for now.
2007-01-26 23:50:59 · answer #3 · answered by NONAME 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
JUST tell them you want to be alone.
You are screwed up and need to find yourself.
If someone else came along and proposed and
because they were being 'nice' would you agree
to marry him as well?
You are in great danger of being and adulteress,
bigamist woman who people will get to dislike
very much. I don,t think much of your boss either. You
want to go out and get yourself a man that has
not already made his vows to another. Get some
counselling as to the reason why you seem to fall
at a persons feet so easily... Sorry to be harsh -
but there are to many 'other woman' in this world
that destroy peoples happy family homelives. I am
a woman but tend to blame the woman because I
think we are the stronger sex!
YOU said yourself you don,t want either of them - so
why ask the question. Get them both to read your Q
here. FINISH WITH BOTH OF THEM and get another job.
2007-01-26 23:18:21 · answer #4 · answered by Minxy 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think you should tell them both how you feel. and since you say that you don't want neither of them then you wont loose anything. but if you had to choose then i would tell you to choose the one that proposed to you. at least that way you can save yourself the drama of trying to get a married man to leave his wife and kid. besides y have to think that if the guy found out what you were doing he might begin to think that you would do the same thing to him.
2007-01-26 23:13:20 · answer #5 · answered by matta_yasashi 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sorry but you have to do that hard stuff weather you like it or not
you have to be honest
the married man is using you and you dont love the one who proposed
grow up tell one to stick it were it hurts and tell the other how you have hurt him
you need to learn to respect your self again
maybe the one that proposed does care enough to accept what is going on and still marry you either way be honest
you can not run from it
2007-01-26 23:13:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You obviously are not ready for marriage. Why would you accept?
Stop messing around with a guy who has a family, that's just wrong.
If you really like your best friend and feel like you could be with him for the rest of your life then end it with your boss. Period.
2007-01-26 23:12:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The real shame in this situation is the fact that you are actually a college student who obviously does not have an "inmate relation" with spelling.
2007-01-26 23:11:27 · answer #8 · answered by Golfer 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You are not a man because you want to break a family
2007-01-30 21:44:19 · answer #9 · answered by anubhav_55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've got in a mess of your own making give them both up and concentrate on improving your education, judging by your spelling and grammar you have a lot of catching up to do
2007-01-27 01:22:17 · answer #10 · answered by barn owl 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋