My wife is extremely attractive & with time i had to adjust at all the stares & flirts she gets, in public etc! Now after a very pleasant marriage of 12years she shared a fantacy she wants to do!
She's been friends with a male for over 20years...& wants to have sex with him as he always tried to get in her pants? I love her dearly...strange it turns me on...must i say YES??
2007-01-26 22:59:16 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if it turns you on, talk to her baout it.. and go from there. She doesnt love him, more likely its the fantasy of having two guys at the same time, or them having her i should say, that she loves. She had balls to tell you, let me say. it must of been hard, people are so scared of letting their sex dreams be known. The friend was picked, i would assume, because knows and trusts him, unlike a random pick up at a bar, so she feels its a safer suggestion.
Talk about it and if you decide to try it, only do it if you trust her and him and set some ground rules. Yes, ground rules very importiant.
2007-01-26 23:06:58 · answer #1 · answered by Wren Tagair 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why your wife would want to have sex with her friend and risk a 20 year friendship not to mention a 12 year good marriage. That said in answer to your question no you don't. The idea might turn you on but unless you are really comfortable with the big picture then don't do it. Will you be comfortable with them being friends after they have had sex? Doubt it. Maybe you have been slipping a little in the compliment area and she's feeling alittle insecure. Try giving her ego a bit of a boost and she may decide the fantasy is not worth all the pain it could cause. Good Luck
2007-01-26 23:10:40 · answer #2 · answered by noddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think that if you do this it could destroy your marriage. What if she wants to do it again? What if you get jealous at the way she touches him or kisses him? Why don't you try and find out why she wants to do this and fix the problem. Maybe spice up the bedroom a little without a third party or go to sex classes for couples, where you could learn more on how to please eachother. Just remember the thought of seeing some man f**k your wife might turn you on at the time, but the next day it could completely disgust you!!
2007-01-26 23:09:49 · answer #3 · answered by holtindyfan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh! all are alike, no one supports your idea! I think u should give weightage to all these answers!
Before that, just try this...
'Honey, I too was having a fantasy for quite some time but suppressed my feelings. I mean, just like you, I too have a female friend known to me for 15 years and fantacise having sex with her and want to do! Hope, u would not mind me to have it on the same day u would like to fulfill your dream!'
I am sure, you will get the best solution from her how to deal with this problem!
2007-01-26 23:21:35 · answer #4 · answered by Shooting stars 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You must NOT say yes. Everyone has fantasies, that doesn't mean you should act on them. I really think that having sex with someone else while your married is detrimental to the relationship. What if you say yes this one time and then she finds someone new that she wants to have sex with? This could go on and on. If you do say yes I think you'll live to regret it.
2007-01-26 23:40:50 · answer #5 · answered by mjm52 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never consider it for a second. I dont know... Maybe im too old school.... If a girl told me she wanted to sleep with some one else, i'd tell her to feel free to, and the relationship would be over as soon as the words came out of her mouth if she was serious
2007-01-26 23:29:44 · answer #6 · answered by caleb d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 04:19:37 · answer #7 · answered by asar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats strange,at least she asked.If you have the chance to be in a relationship with another woman i wood say yes.But if not i wood start looking.There are a lot of women out there that love to be loved.You are going to have to let her go,if she comes back fine.
2007-01-26 23:08:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
fantasy is one thing..real life is another. you would only be making a bad choice by saying yes. If you actually followed through with it it will leave you questioning yourself and how your
wife really feels about you. I would explain to your wife that you love her and appreciate her telling you her fantasy but you would rather not share her with anyone because she is so special to you.
2007-01-26 23:07:04 · answer #9 · answered by kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't HAVE to say yes, but since it turns you on, and she will probably do it anyway without your permission if she really wants to, I'd say go with it.
Just make sure she's OK with you sleeping with someone else for YOUR fantasy!
2007-01-26 23:05:55 · answer #10 · answered by Tough Love 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋